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Hamd-e-Bari Ta'ala and Naat-e-Rasool (sallallahoalaihiwassallam)
Bismillahir Rehmaanir Raheem
In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merficul
MISCELLANEOUS PROBLEMS RELATING TO THINGS
PERMISSIBLE AND IMPERMISSIBLE.
In this chapter, problems relating to different aspect of our daily life what we
may call routines or etiquettes and the laws of shariat about them, especially what
modes of behaviour beneath them are permissible or impermissible (Jaiz and Najaiz).
By the very nature of title, this chapter is not confined to any particular subject
or of shariat law and its thread pare analysis and interpretation as we have hitherto
done. We begin to the most common practice of our daily relating to Eating and Drinking.
It is said in the Holy Quran,
(O you who believe! do not declare as forbidden what Allah has made lawful for you
and do not transgress. Surely Allah does not love those who transgress.
And eat of what Allah has give you provision permissible pure and fear allah if
you believe unto him.)
It is further proclaimed
Eat of what Allah has give as sustenances and follow the footsteps satan. Indeed
he is your open enemy. It is said in the Hadees of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him), The food on which `bismiLlah' is not recited before eating,
the satan partakes it as if becomes accessible for him. A companion Umar bin Abi
Salmah says that when he was a child underthe care of the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him), he used his fingers every where in eating utensil.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) directed him to eat from
what is in front and not to more hand in the utensil. To recite the Name of Allah
before eating is essential. If any one forgets, he should do so at the end, reciting
In the Name of Allah, in the beginning of It and at the end of it (ie. eating).
Reciting the Name of Allah of increase (blesses) the victuals. The Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that eating together and reciting
the name of Allah, increase the nutritive quality of the food and satisfies the
hunger. The food on which the name of Allah is not recited is a (source) of disease.
The compensation for it to eat some thing from the food still on the table cloth
will the Name of Allah, and if the food has been removed, he should lick his fingers
by reciting the Name of Allah.
He has also said that after taking the food he should recite,
In the Name of Allah and allah with Whose Name nothing can harm in the earth or
in the sky. O Ever Living! O Ever Staying! This will prevent you from all kinds
of disease and ailments, even if the poison is mixed in the food. Further commandments
in this respect may be summarised as under,
Eating and drinking with right hand, to do so with left hand is the practice of
satan.
Eating with three fingers is the tradition of the Prophets of Allah. Eating with
all five fingers is forbidden as it is the practice of the uncouth and uncultured
ones.
After eating the fingers and the pot should be licked, one does not know at what
part of the food lies the blessing.
To below air and breath in the utensil is forbidden.
If a morsel of food falls down, it should be picked up, cleaned and eaten. To leave
it uneaten is to invite satan to eat it.
Pay due regard to the bread, it descends from heaven and contains blessing of the
earth.
One who picks up and eats the fallen cramp of bread, receives forgiveness from Allah.
No one should rise from the table (cloth) until all men have their food.
No one should withdraw hand from the food while others are still engaged in eating.
He might slow down and give an impression of joining with others. In case of an
emergency, he may excuse and leave the place. To give up eating while your companion
is busy, would cause him in convenience.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has emphasized that after
eating food the following `dua' should be recited,
(All praise due to Allah who gave us food and drink and us Muslims).
Put off your shoes at the time of eating, it is graceful habit. It also gives relief
and comfort to feet.
To eat with the help of the knife and fork is undesirable, it is the habit of the
un islamic people. The use of knife and fork may be allowed when the items of food
can not be broken in pieces with hand and teeth. It is reported that on some rare
occasion the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has made use of
knife and fork while taking food. However, this should be taken as a general permission.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) did not take food while reclining
against a pillow (or cushion).
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) never criticized or spoke
against any preparation presented to him.
He had said, `the food for one suffices for two, food for two, suffices for four
and that of four suffices for eight.
He said, "Measure your food (the minimum quantity you need to satisfy your hunger).
This way lies the blessing vessel than his stomach. A few morsels are enough to
keep his back straight. No more than one third food for eating, nor more than third
of breaths for living, are enough to sustain life on earth.
To refuse taking as a formality while there is hunger, is committing two sins at
a time, not taking food when presented and telling a lie in there being no hunger.
People (rich and wealthy) who take food and drink in golden and silver vessels,
fill their belly with fire.
When a fly falls in food or drink, it should be dipped full two times in that pot
and then thrown away. In one wing of the fly is the disease and in the other wing
is the cure of the disease. The fly by nature dips the disease wing and saves the
cure wing while falling in the eatable. By dipping the whole fly twice neutralizes
the ill effect of the disease and restores normally and health.
PROBLEM:- In some cases taking food is obligatory (farz) and not taking is
an act of sin. If the hunger is to such an extent that remaining a more hungry may
cause death, the taking food is obligatory and refusing to take anything is a grave
sin (almost amounting to suicide which is haram).
PROBLEM:- In a state of extreme necessity when life hangs un balance, things
which are manifestly haram becomes Halal but only' to the extent that one may survive
and not at all for pleasure nor in a quality more than minimum quality of drink
of a haram liquid is allowed to save life.
PROBLEM:- If some one has a thing which can save the life of a dying man,
but he refuses to give the thing on request or on payment, then in such a case the
thing can be snatch away from that cruel fellow by force.
PROBLEM:- Human flesh is absolutely forbidden, what ever the reason or situation
may be.
PROBLEM:- Dead corpse and the wine are not allowed as medicine.
PROBLEM:- Eating should be slightly less than satisfying full hunger.
PROBLEM:- Avoiding food and drink that incite lust is an act of piety.
PROBLEM:- The sunnat etiquettes of taking food are (1) to wash hand before
and (2) after taking food (3) not to wipe hands before taking food and (4) to wipe
hands after eating so that no trace remains of the things taken.
OTHER ETIQUETTES / MANNERISMS
Nothing should be kept on the bread while taking food. Hands and knife should not
be wiped with bread. Eating with the left hand reclining on floor is makrooh.
Talking pleasant thing while eating is good. Keeping utter silence while eating
is the habit of the Magis (Majusis).
After eating the vessel should be cleaned with fingers. It is reported in Hadees
Sharif that the vessel prays for the person who cleanses it with fingers that Allah
may deliver him from the Fire of the He'll as he has delivered him from the Devil.
It is also reported that the eating should begin by taking some salt and also and
with it. It gives relief from to diseases.
PROBLEM:- Eating in the open and bazaar is makrooh.
PROBLEM:- To criticize and pick up faults in food preparations is against
the Tradition of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him).
PROBLEM:- It is customary that while taking food some arrives and he is invited,
he says `BISMILLAH'.Saying bismiLlah is meaningless. Ulema have objected to this
practice. Instead he should say `May Allah increase your livelihood' or any `dua'
of this kind.
PROBLEM:- If a needy person is unable due to weakness or oldage to work and
manage his livelihood, it is not a shame for him to beg for help at the doorsteps
of neighbour and others. If he dies of hunger by not begging food, he will be guilty
of grave sin.
ETIQUETTES OF DRINK IN (WATER).
In this respect, some of the Ahadees of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace
be upon him) are given below.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) used to DRINK water with
three breaths (as a break not in one gulp). He said this way water becomes pleasant,
useful and satisfies thirst.
To say `BISMILLAH' before drinking and `AL-HAMDO LILLAH' afterwards.
One should not breathe into the cup, glass etc, he should withdraw if for a moment,
before resuming to drink.
Drinking in gold and silver sup/vessel is forbidden.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) gladly took the drink which
was sweet and cool.
While taking water at night, the container (pitcher etc) should be shaken. However
it closed with a cap or lia shaking is not necessary.
He has said to drink water as if sucking it. It is pleasant and digestive ad a safeguard
against illness.
Hazrat Ayesha Siddiqah (May Allah be pleased with her) once enquired form the Holy
Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) as to what things are forbidden being
called `not halal.' He replied `Water, Salt and Fire.' She said, `I understood about
water ! But why are salt and fire are forbidden being `not halal'. The Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him), answered, "O Humariah! (May Allah be pleased
with her), The one who supplied fire, he gave sadagah for every thing which his
cooked on fire. And the man who gave salt, he made tasty and delicious all things
with the salt and thus he offered sadaqah of all thing corrected by the salt. And
the man who supplied water at a place, where water is not available it is as if
he gave freedom to a slave."
It is a practice to throw away the remaining water of the glass after drinking from
it, calling it "Jhoota" (unclean). It is a legacy from Hindus who believe and practice,
untouchablity. There is no such thing in Islam. It is a sheer waste which is forbidden.
The water of Wazoo (ablution) and Zam Zam should be taken in standing posture and
all other drinks should be taken in sitting position.
VALIMA AND DINNER
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) blessed the marriage of his
companion Hazrat Anas and asked him to arrange valima in celebration of his marriage,
even if it be only one goat.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has cursed the valima dinner
in which only the will to do people are invited and the poor are left and ignored.
One who redeclines and refuses to attend the valima (and other ceremonial dinner)
without any valid reason, he is guilty of disobedience to the commands of Allah
and His Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him). And one who goes to a dinner
without being invited is a thief who enters a house one comes out after dacoity,
without being detected.
Valima on the first day of wedding is Haq (True and Divine) on the second day it
is sunnat and on the third and thereafter it is sun'ah meant to let it heard by
other and for display (of one's riches etc) and one who does it will meeta fate
(punishment) about which their will hear!
If two men come at one and the same time with invitation, then the one whose door
is nearer yours should be given preference.
The guest at home should be given comfort and respect in full for at least one day
and night. However the care and comfort lasts three day and thereafter it becomes
sadaah of which he is entitles, the guest should not therefore become a burden on
the host.
PROBLEM:- To attend valima and other dinner, is sunnat and the invites must
go there after making sure that there is no wasteful guilty and urn just to display
one's position in the society and his wealth.
PROBLEM:- A man known for his learnedness and devotion may attend the invitation
id he is sure that his presence will (indirectly) compel the host to desist form
such an activity. Other wise he will himself give a justification for wasteful display
and pleasure.
PROBLEM:- While eating the dinner at come one else house, it is not open
for the guest to give anything to a beggar if he begs. He is there not as an owner,
he is only a guest and the food before him has been given for him to eat and not
to distribute.
PROBLEM:- The guest should observe four principles of mannerism and etiquette;
(1) He should sit where he is made to sit. (2) He should eat whatever is presented
without any demur or objection, especially calling it of a quality lower than what
he takes at his own home. (3) He should not leave the place without the per mission
of the host. (4) He should pray for the will fare and prosperity of the host and
his family member while saying `Khuda Hafiz' to them.
PROBLEM:- As far as possible, the host should personally look to the comfort
and requirement of the guest. Then things should not be left to the servants etc.
This is the sunnat of Hazrat Ibrahim (Alahis satam). If the guest is alone or they
are few it is morally incumbent on the host to sit among the guest(s) and partake
of the food and serve them meekly and willingly.
PROBLEM:- If some one sends gifts and present. If the man is known for possessing
wealth of halal and haram nature, then it is necessary to ascertain what kind of
wealth dominates. If it is of halal quality then alone he should accept the gift
of such a person. Otherwise he should politely decline to accept it, even in this
refusal no harsh or offensive language should be use.
PROBLEM:- If a debtor shows unusual hospitality to the creditor and trains
to entertain him softener than usual, then it can be assumed that he is doing so
on account of the debt/loan against him and with a gesture of a fraternal well being.
In such events caution is of utmost necessity, because if a debtor gets displeased
for any reason, he may cause in convenience to the creditors.
UTENSILS - VESSELS.
PROBLEM:- To eat and drink form the utensils of gold and silver and to apply
oil from such like cups or use perfumes for bottles or perfume metallic containers
all these are forbidden for both men and women. However women can use gold/silver
ornaments etc. Apart ornament, the use of silver and gold in any way is forbidden
for men and women alike.
PROBLEM:- Using silver/golden spoons, collyrium holders and sticks to see
in the mirrors of silver/golden frames, pent ink pot, to make ablution from such
post or sit in chairs of these make are forbidden for men and women.
PROBLEM:- Wearing silver/golden ring with mirror is permissible for women
but they are forbidden form looking in these mirrors.
PROBLEM:- Using the pots of silver and gold, wearing gold watch and looking
time in them are forbidden.
PROBLEM:- Decoration pieces made of these metals are prohibited.
PROBLEM:- Apart from gold and silver utensils/pots/vessels made from any
other metal are permissible. But as pots, earthen wares are be best. it is reported
in the Hadees that earthen / clay vessels and object which the angels descend to
see and pay homage.
PROBLEM:- Cups and glasses having silver/gold linings and designs are permissible,
provided these metals do not come in contact with hand and mouth while drinking
water from them.
PROBLEM:- Electroplating of gold and silver on vessels is permissible.
DRESS.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that the best dress
with which you can visit graveyards and offer prayers in the masjids is the white
one. The coffin shrove are also of white cloth. Summarized version of the Traditions
(Ahadees) of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) is given below,
The sleeves of the shirts of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)
stretched up to the end to the wrists. The two edges of his Turban (Immah) were
kept hanging between the two shoulders. He has asked to use turban (Imamah), it
is the emblem of the angels and keep it down on the back. He said the difference
between the Believers and Non-believers is that while we use Imamah on our caps
(and they don't do so).
Hazrat Ayesha (May Allah be pleased with her) said that the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) told her that if she desired to meet him in the Hereafter,
she must be content with as little worldly assets as is necessary for a traveler
while going on journey. Do not sit near above the wealthy people. Do not thing a
clothing as old and unserviceable unless it has patches on it.
Once Hazrat Hafsah come to Hazrat Ayesha (May Allah pleased with them both) wearing
a thin head covering. Hazrat Ayesha tore the thin head covering and her another
head covering of thick cloth.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that any one who
puts on clothing for pomp and popularity, on the Day of Judgment Allah will wrap
him in clothes of disgrace and dishonor. He has also said that any one who gives
up wearing rich clothing out of humility and selflessness, on the Day of Judgment
Allah will provide him the appeared of dignity and elevation. He has also said the
if a person has enough means and resources his outward keeping and appearance must
show glimpse of his being favoured by Allah in making him rich, wealthy and above
petty wants.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said,
Silk and gola are permissible for woman of Muslim, while these are forbidden to
menfolk.
Spreading the skin of he beasts is forbidden.
It is reported in the Hadees that once Hazrat Umar (May Allah be pleased with him)
put on new clothes and recited the following dua,
(TRANSLATION:- All praise is due to Allah Who clothed me which covers my
shame and gives me beauty in my life).
He said `I have heard from the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)
that any one who recites this dua on wearing ness clothes and give his old clothes
in sadaqah, he will remain in the Protection and Peace of Allah in this life and
after this, in the Hereafter.
He said, `any one who imitates the people of other nations he becomes like them
and one of them. This Hadees all aspect of life and faith. In guides what people
we should follow in respect of clothes (dress), habits and characters and whom we
should avoid initiating or copying. To seek resemblance with unbelievers transgressors,
lewd and debanchees is to debase and degrade oneself to the lowest state among the
human beings. On the other hand to follow and endeavor to become one to those who
are known for their piety, righteousness, love and sympathy for the down tradden
is the very essence of life with enduring benefits not only in the world but also
in the Hereafter. A Muslim must try to keep himself above and distinguished from
a Non Muslim.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has cursed those women who
wish to look and behave like men, by adopting the dress, the mannerism and general
appearance of the menfolk. Similarly he has cursed those men who imitate women in
all these respect.
It is said in the Hadees that the bed or cushion on which the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) used to sleep was made of leather in which the dry
rind of he date was stuffed. So was his pillow.
PROBLEM:- The daily wear (dress) should be such (simple, and light) that
hides the shame and protects from cold and heat in season. If by the Grace of Allah,
there is enough to maintain the appearance especially in dress, it should be only
with a view and by the way of Thanks giving to Allah and not to display the riches
and extravagance. That leads to arrogance and pride and breeds contempt for the
poor and the down trodden.
White dress id preferable which has also been praised in the Hadees. Black colour
is also likeable. When the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) entered
the Mecca Moazzam after conquest he had black turban (Emamat) over his head.
PROBLEM:- Pure silken clothes are forbidden for men. However cotton and silk
mixed clothes may be worn but not as a habit. While silken clothes are permissible
to women, whether the silk is artificial or real.
PROBLEM:- To stitch an amulet (Taweez) in pure silken piece of cloth is not
allowed whether it hung with neck or tied on the arm.
PROBLEM:- To wear black clothes as a sign of mourning in the family where
some one had died is not allowed.. Black badge as a sign of grief is also forbidden.
PROBLEM:- During Muharram form Ist to twelth wearing of clothes in black,
green and red colour is not advisable. Black is the colour belonging to RAFZIS,
Green is the way of Tazia Mourners and the Red is the sign of happiness of the KHARJIS.
PROBLEM:- Pajama is a sunnat dress as it cover the shame parts extensively.
However it is reported that the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)
did not put on pajama. He used to wear Tahband (long piece of cloth tied round the
back above the abdomen).
PROBLEM:- Wearing leather coat (posteen) is permissible. Many scholars of
Deen and Mashaikh (heads of spiritual sects have used posteen). Leather jacket may
also be taken as a posteen. The animals which are forbidden, if their skins are
tanned and dried their skins can also used for making posteen, as also as Musalla
for offering prayers. However such a thing should be avoided, because after all
the animal was a forbidden one and the emergent necessity for its use has not arisen.
In Hades the skin of tiger while in riding has be forbidden.
PROBLEM:- Wearing of dress (shirt, pajama etc) should begin from the right
side, which the shirt should be worn by putting the right hand in the sleeve, then
the left sleeve. Similarly, while wearing pajama the right foot should first be
used, then the left.
EMAMAH (TURBAN)
To tie (wearing) Emama (Turban) especially in offering Namaz is sunnat and carries
much reward (sawab).
PROBLEM:- While wearing Emamah, the edge (Shimla) of should be kept hanging
between the two shoulders. Wherever the Emama is to be tied again, it should not
be thrown on the ground to pick up the edge and open it, Rather, it should be opened
slowly and in the circular war in which it was the first instance.
PROBLEM:- Emamah should be tied in standing position and the pajama he put
on while sitting, any one doing opposite to it will suffer from an uncurable disease.
PROBLEM:- It is established that the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace
be upon him) often put on cap, and whenever he wore Emamah he kept the cap below
the turban.
PROBLEM:- The Emamah and the pajama should not be used as a pillow] (in one
way it is disrespect to Emama, and in other respect it is disrespect to the head
- Translator)
PROBLEM:- To hang amulet (Tawiz) round the neck is permissible as it contains
Quranic Verses, The Names of Allah and words of dua. It is prohibited in some Hadeeses
but these refer to amulets, which contain words/in vocative phrases which were extant
in the pre Islamic days and were contrary to inscriptions prescribed in books of
Ahadees and prayers. It is also permissible that the verses/phrases of amulets can
be written with saffron on dish plates and the water of it wash be given to patients
for cure. Bed sheets or Musalla cloth with Holy words / verses etc. Written or painted
on it should not be used for these purposes. They may be preserve as decorative
pieces or kept safe from being disrespected. This also applies to table cloth (dastar
khwan) which also at times are decorated with verses or lines of poetry.
WEARING SHOES
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that while wearing
shoes the right foot must first be put in the shoes and while removing the left
foot should be freed first. One should not walk with only one shoe on. He should
use both shoes or walk bare feet. Women are forbidden to wear shoes meant for men
folk. The woman must preserve the dignity of being a woman.
It woman initiates a man even in matter of wearing shoes, she degrade her dignity
of woman hood as was the common and disposition of Allah in her creation.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has commanded to remain barefooted
afford ones.
WEARING RING AND ORNAMENTS.
PROBLEM:- Wearing any kind of ornament or jewelry is absolutely haram except
the silver ring which is permissible for men folk, but it should be less than four
and half Masha in weight. The silver can also be used in the handle and stealth
of the sword provided the silver may not in use in any other way.
PROBLEM:- Only the ring of silver is allowed, any other metal for example
iron, lead, copper, brass etc is not allowed for making the ring which is prohibited
for men and woman alike.
PROBLEM:- Some Ulema permit use of precious stones in the ring while others
prohibit it. Precaution demands that things which do not have specific approval/consent
of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him). But the prohibition is
for the ring itself and not for the Nagina or the stone, gem etc of the ring Nagina
can be of nay stone,,,,
, etc.
PROBLEM:- Electroplating of silver over iron ring is allowed, it also justifies
the electroplating of gold on silver or any other ring.
PROBLEM:- The men wearing the ring should keep the nagina towards the palm
and the women at the back of the hand, so that the Nagina as an embellishment should
be visible.
PROBLEM:- A man can have his name engraved on the ring, as also the Holy
Names of Allah and the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him). However
the inscription ""
should not be engraved/carved on the ring. This inscription was caved on the Holy
Ring of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him). On His Ring the
wordwas carved in the first line, in the second the wordand in the third line the
Namewere graved. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has not
allowed to carver this inscription or nay one's ring. The engraving of human picture
or of nay animal has also been prohibited.
PROBLEM:- The male ring should have only one Nagina on it, two or more stones
are not allowed, similarly wearing of more than one ring has also been disallowed
for menfolk as also the use of "Challas" metal ringlets. Women can use these Challas
as well as more than two rings.
PROBLEM:- Use of silver/gold ring is haram for the boy/adolescents. Similarly
the use of hina or ground mertle leaves made into paste and applied to hand/feet
of boys is prohibited. The woman may herself use it but she will commit a sin if
she applies to a boy.
COVER IN VESSELS AND ETIQUETTES OF GOING TO SLEEP.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that when evening
sets in call your children inside the house and do not let them be out as at that
time evil spirits of devils (satans) Jinns and other apparitions descend on earth
and roam about hither and thither and pick up unway children or cast evil spells
on them. These children may be allowed outside home after an hours or so.
Further commandments by the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) in
regard to utensils and precautions while going to sleep are.
(1) After reciting `bismiLlah' tie the mouth of leather water bag (Mash'k or Mash'keeza).
(2) Cover the utensils/vessels or put some hard object across the vessels.
(3) Put off the (oil) lamps, (at times a rat or any crawling animal drags the lamp,
upsets it and the house goes a fire), May Allah prevent such on eventuality.
(4) Shut the door, The satan and evil spirits can not open the Mashk, nor the door
nor the utensils.
(5) It is reported that once every year comes a night in which evil spirits descend
on earth carrying with them the cursed diseases and epidemics and enter the room
and any other vessel if they open and unprotected and cause damage and destruction
to inmates.
(6) Neither a burning fire should be left in the house before the inmates to sleep.
Hazrat Abu Musa Ashary reports that one night one house got burnt due to the fire
kept unextinguished. On hearing the tragic new the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and
peace be upon him) said `Fire is your enemy, put it off while you go to sleep.
(7) When during the night you hear the sounds of barking dogs and braying donkeys,
recite
because at that (inauspicious) moment you do not (and can not) see. When these sounds
come to a stop do not come out of your house, as Allah lets any spirit of His Creation
scatter about on the surface of the earth.
ETIQUETTES OF SITTIN, SLEEPIN AND WALKING POSTURES.
It is said in the Holy Quran, LUQMAN said to his son, "O my son! do not twist and
twirl your checks while talking to a person and do not walk on the ground in an
arrogant manner. Verily, Allah does not like men who walk arrogantly, walk with
modest (and moderate) measured steps, lower the pitch of your voice, indeed the
most contemptible of all the voices, is the braying of a donkey" (Surah Luqman :
Verses.)
Further summerised versions from the Holy Quran and the Ahadees is given below:
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, `One should not
be made to vacate his seat in order that the amn (doing so) him self occupies that
place, move aside a little and make room for other.
If the man leaves the place temporally and comes back soon, he is entitles to his
original place.
While sitting in the Masjid, the Holy Prophet (Allah' grace and peace be upon him)
raised both his knees up and held them with both hands, circling round the in(Knees).
This is the sign of modesty and humility.
Hazrat Jabir report that after the morning prayers the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him) used to sit in squatting posture till the sun was clearly
one.
When a man is in the Shadow, but when the shadow shrinks and sun rays creep in,
he should leave the place.
To sit in a manner when the left hand is at the backand the face reclining on the
palm of right hand, is to invite Allah's wrath.
He said who ever after rising from a majlis (people sitting together recites these
words, three times, Allah will forgive his sins and one who recites these phrases
in the company of virtuous people, Allah will seal goodness for him as indelible
or like
the command which bears the seal of the supreme authority. These words/phrases are.,
(O Allah! You Are Pure, (I beseech You) With Your Praise. There is no one worthy
of worship except You. I seek forgiveness from You and I am laying myself before
You (for Mercy and benevolence).
He further said if people sat together for some length of time and dispersed without
mentioning the name of Allah and offering salutation to the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) then they did great harm to themselves. It is up to
Allah to forgive them or do what He likes.
He has forbidden to keep one leg upon the other while lying on the ground on the
back. However if there is fear of shame parts of the body being exposed (becomes
of lose down clothing) then it is permissible.
To lie in belly side is the custom of those who will suffer punishment in He'll.
He has warned against sleeping in open terrace which has no boundary walls or any
obstruction from falling absent mindedly or for any reason. In that he will himself
be responsible for the consequences.
while moving on the way, if women come in front, do not pass through them but move
aside left or right (without confronting them).
PROBLEM:- A mid-day nap or sleeping at mid-day (Qitula) is permissible. It
is Mustahab.
PROBLEM:- Sleeping in early part of the morning or in between Magrib and
Isha is also impermissible (makrooh) while lying for sleep it is Mustahab that one
should in clean and pure condition (preferably after performing ablution), lie down
on right side for some time keeping the right hand under check facing Qible, then
on the left side. While lying asleep he should imagine sleeping in being his deeds
of the world. He should engage himself in the Remembrance of Allah, reciting Tasbeeh,
verse, etc, till he goes in deep slumber.
On rising in the morning he should thank Almighty Allah for giving him new life.
The man rises in the same state in which he sleeps and on the Day of Resurrection
he will rise in the same state he lay in the grave. The prayer of thanks giving
on rising in the morning is this.
(All Praise is due Allah Who gave us (new)life after our death (while sleep) and
unto Him is the Rising (from the graves). While praying thus on rising in the morning
he should resolve to live the day in virtuous deeds with out harming any one and
usurping any one's just right, nor will he harm any one the whole day.
PROBLEM:- After Isha and before going to sleep there should be as little
worldly discussion as possible. It is preferable to confine the discourse at this
moment on these issues (1) Religious discussion, (2) Avoiding frivolous talks. (3)
Friendly talks of mutual interest as between husband and wife etc. Whatever the
subject of mutual discourse be chosen, then end should be in the remembrance of
Allah, thinking Him for blessings during the day and asking forgiveness for short
comings.
PROBLEM:- Sleep undressed is undesirable especially when two men or two woman
sleep on their respective bed's, even if there is distance in them on the same cot.
PROBLEM:- When a boy or a girl reaches the age of 10 year they should sleep
separately. The boy of this age should not share bed even with grown up men.
PROBLEM:- It is not advisable to pass through the land of others man without
his permission. However, if there is no way through, then passing in it is not forbidden.
As a principle, walking through a forbidden or restricted tract of land or way is
not permissible, especially when the restriction is notified through a sign board
or notice of working hung on the gate way or entrance.
LOOKING AND TOUCHING (PRIVATE PARTS).
The Quranic Version of observing and maintaining modesty and morality are as specific
as they are binding. Here we are concerned with that aspect of modesty and morality
which relate to looking at or touching parts of body which excite passion and lust
and which in their wake lead to greater, more sinister acts of debauchery in human
society. The following verses (reproduced in translation) are very specific on the
subject noted above and dealt hereunder.
"And Say, (O Prophet!) to the believing women that they should lower their gaze
and guard their modesty, that they should not display their beauty and ornaments,
except what appear of their own, that they should draw their veils over their bosom
and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's
father, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brothers son,
or their sisters sons, or their women, or the salves whom their right hands possess,
or male servants free of physical need, or small children who have no sense of the
shame of sex, and that they should not strike their feet on order to draw attention
to their widen ornaments, And O You Believers! turn You all towards Allah so that
you may attain Bliss." (Surah N'ur(24): verse 31)
The Traditions (Ahadees) of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)
are also equally emphatic in regard to the observance of these moral principles,
which serve as guidelines and safety valves for guarding and maintaining modesty
and chastity of women folk.
A summarized extract of these Ahadees is given below,
A women is a women (aurat) literally meant to be hidden (and safeguarded), whenever
she comes out, satan spies and secretly peeps into her movements (It means looking
secretly at a woman is a satanic act).
Allah curses the looker and the one looked at (woman) if men do so intentionally
and the women do not cover themselves with due preconscious.
When the man is alone with a woman, satan is their third companion.
Avoid going to woman. Asked about husband's brother, he replied husband's brother
(devar) is death, (as if facing and being with devar is inviting death, there is
greats fear of danger in his company!).
Thigh (of both man and women) is an aurat or a thing to be kept hidden, O Ali! Do
not look at thigh, neither of a living person nor of a dead one.
A man should not look at the private part of another man's. Similarly, the woman
should avoid doing so with another woman.
A amn with another man, and a woman with another woman should sleep without clothes.
A woman should observe pardah even before a blind man, because if the blind can
not see her, she will be tempted to look at him.
It a woman remains with another woman (behaving freely) she should not tell about
it to her husband in a manner so as to mentally give him a picture of her behaviour.
PROBLEM:- There are four aspects of the subject under discussion (1) Man
looking at another man (2) Woman looking at another woman
(3) Woman looking at man (4) Man looking at woman.
A man can look at every part of another man except those declared as of shame, name
by from below the abdomen to below the knees. Which aught to be covered. If knees
are open, the man should be warned. To keep the things open (bare) is to invite
wrath of Allah.
PROBLEM:- When a boy becomesand if he is not handsome, he is within the context
a man, and if he is handsome and attractive, looking at him is asking to looking
at a woman, which is sinful. Temptation of kiss is sign of lust.
PROBLEM:- In regard to a woman looking at another woman, the same principles
apply as are applicable to man looking at another man. A part from parts of shame,
she can look at other part or another woman if it does incite passion.
PROBLEM:- A pious woman should avoid the gaze of a loose character woman,
she should not remove the veil or clothing from her head and bosom, as she is to
likely to speak about her before paramours. A muslim woman must not undress herself
before a non-believing woman.
PROBLEM:- The job of mid wifery should be entrusted to Muslim woman as far
as possible.
PROBLEM:- In regard to a woman looking another man it is like a man looking
at another man provided she is sure that this will not arouse lust, and if there
be the slight fear of this she should avoid looking at him.
PROBLEM:- A woman must never touch the body of another especially one of
them is young, even if it is felt that this will not excite passion.
PROBLEM:- At times some so-called spiritual head ask their] woman devotees
to press their hands and feet and bless them for their "services!" This is immoral
and a source of likely sinning, with satanic inducements it becomes beyond control
to fall into satanic temptation. The practice is manifestly unholy, un islamic and
un becoming of a stranger whether or not he is spiritually qualified to be called
a peer or mush id.
PROBLEM:- Looking of a man at a woman falls in different categories of situation
(1) Man looking at his wife or slave girl (2) His looking at those relations who
are Mahrams (haram for marriage according to Holy Quran to him. (3) Mans looking
at a free (not slave) woman and a stranger (4) Man looking at the slave girl of
some other master.
In regard to first category a man can look at every part of the wife (and slave
girl) from top to bottom, within or without lust. In the same these woman (wife
and slave girl) can look at every part of their masters person. However modesty
demands that deliberate gaze at each other parts of shame should be avoided, it
creates forgetfulness and also weaken the eye sight.
PROBLEM:- As for the woman termed as Maharaim to him, he can look at their
head, chest, shin, writs, neck and feet provided there is not fear of lust excitement.
PROBLEM:- Among the Maharim, what ever parts he can see, he can also touch
them, when there is no fear of passion rousing in any one of them. A man can also
press the feet of his mother, he can touch her thighs when it is fully covered.
A man can kiss the feet of his mother. It is reported in the Hadees Sharif that
to kiss the feet of his mother is like kissing the threshold of the paradise.
PROBLEM:- Traveling or remaining alone with a Mohramah is permissible when
there is no apprehension of luscious inclinations.
PROBLEM:- As for the stranger woman, it is permissible to look at her face
and hands, because these are often used in day to day dealings. More face and hands
can also serve as means of identification whenever some evidence for against the
woman is necessary. But to touch the face and hands is not allowed. This shows that
shaking hands with women is permissible. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace
be upon him)look the allegiance (baiyet)
from the women from the words of mouth (and not by holding hand as is done with
the men baiyet !seekers).
PROBLEM:- Very old man and women can shake hands with each other and with
others of the opposite sex, as they are usually past the age of passionate emotions
.
PROBLEM:- Very small girls can be looked at and even touched. Looking at
hands and face of domestic female worker is permissible but only as a matter of
necessity other than lust or passion.
PROBLEM:- The woman with whom a man desires to enter into a wedlock (marriage)
it is desirable that he see her as this lead to strengthening of their love after
marriage. It is permissible according to Hadees Sharif. Similarly a woman also can
see her future husband, but not with a feeling of lust and passion but to avail
the permission granted in the Hadees sot that she may from her independent opinion
for her future.
PROBLEM:- The part of the body which it is impermissible to see, can not
be seen even it removed from the body, for example under navel hair of a woman or
her hair.
PROBLEM:- If hairs grow on the lip or chin of a woman, it is permissible
that she plucks off or their growth or present may not detract the husband.
PROBLEM:- Relations of hurmat (Mahrams) can live and sleep under the same
roof, but separate from one another. But privacy is not permissible with the foster
sister and mother is law when they are young. This is also the command in respect
the adult daughter of the woman when she is from another husband.
SEEKING PERMISSION TO ENTER IN HOUSE.
PROBLEM:- When a person goes to the house of another man, he must first seek
permission to enter the house. After permission when he goes in, he should offer
salutation (Salam) to the inmates and then enter into conversation with the person
or persons concerned.
PROBLEM:- While seeking permission if some one enquires about the caller,
the latter must tell his full name, instead or saying "I", which has no sense.
PROBLEM:- On receiving a negative answer to enter the house, the caller must
not feel offended. He should return without any grudge of bickering in the heart.
The man (owner) might be busy in some other important and more urgent work.
PROBLEM:- If one goes a house where no one is present to answer the call,
then he should a general salutation saying,
Peace unto us and to all the virtuous servants of Allah. The angels will reply the
salutation or he should say: Salutation and Peace to You, O the Prophet of All ()
because the sacred soul of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)
remains in the houses of the momins.
PROBLEM:- On leaving the house also salutation, (Salam) should be extended
to the people of the house. This salutation is obligatory while entering or leave
the house, even if there is any obstacle like a tree or wall etc in between.
WISHING PEACE OF EXTEND IN SALUTATION
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that there are six
rights of a muslim against another muslim, namely (1) When he falls sick, the other
Muslim should go to him and enquire about his health ( and pray for early recovery,
(2) To attend and accompany his funeral when he dies, (3) When he calls, the answer
should be to visit him (4) To wish him Peace of Allah (salam) when he meets him
(5) When he sneezes, he should pray Allah's Mercy for him, (6) Wishing for his welfare
and prosperity in his presence and absence. He has also said, `When a Muslim extends
and presents salaam first, he gets preference in getting Allah's blessings. Further
commandments according to the Ahadees are.
When one meets his Muslim brother, he should offer Peace (salam). If any obstacles
comes in between and they meet again, he should again offer peace.
The rider should salute the pedestrian.
The one walking should offer salutation to those sitting.
The fewer in number should salute those larger in number.
The young one should say salaam to his elder.
It is reported that once passing by the children, the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him) wished the youngsters the Mercy and Peace of Allah (salam).
Those sitting on the way should observe the rights of the way, namely (1) Keeping
the gazes low (2) remove the obstacles (3)answer the salam (4) telling the people
to do good to others. (5) forbid them going any evil(6) guide the wayfarer (7) listen
to the distressed and redress his grievances (8) guide the man who has forgotten
his way. He has also said, ` One who imitates others (non-Muslims and aliens) he
is not from amongst us (or he does not belong to us), do not copy the jews and the
christians. (The satam of the jews is indicated by fingers and that of the christian
is through movement of hand).
PROBLEM:- Wishing salam means that the honour, respect, and life of the other
Muslim brother is in his protection (He reads these thing as his own and protects
then with equal care and caution) To deny them is haram.
PROBLEM:- Wishing good (salaam) should not be restricted to only those who
are known. One should he equally generous to wish will to even those who are strangers.
(The companions suet to visit the bazaars and other crowded places again, as they
got opportunities to offer salaam to more and more people).
PROBLEM:- The answer to salaam should be prompt and on the spot, delay is
which should not be redeemed by saying salaam, but he must forgive from Allah.
PROBLEM:- Answering salaam is Farz-e-Kifayah among the people if even a single
person answers the salaam, it shall be as from all those present, otherwise all
shall be guilty of neglect and liable to punishment in the Presence of Allah. Better
it is that instead of one person, all should repeat the salutation.
PROBLEM:- Answering a beggar's call at the door steps is not essential.
PROBLEM:- When two known man and woman meet the man should take precedence
to wish the woman. A when a stranger woman salutes a man, the man should in a tone
that she also hears if she an old and aged lay, and if she a young one, his answer
should not fall on her ears.
PROBLEM:- When a man enters his own house, he must presence salaam to all
the inmates, when passing by children, he should wish them all.
PROBLEM:- Answering salaam of non-believers is not necessary. The word "Alaikum"
(to you the same) will be sufficient. However if he passes by the site where Muslims
and Non-Muslims are many in numbers, then the salutation in full should be addressed,
however keeping in mind that he intends Muslims as the recipient. To crown all this,
if he recites the Quranic Verse (Peace unto those who follow the path of guidance)
will behest as it includes all listener.
PROBLEM:- To wish salaam to a kafir is permissible only when there is danger
of some harm if he does not do so. Other wise as a principle it is haram to wish
salaam to a kafir, is not permissible, rather to offer respect and respect to a
kafir is itself an act of kufir.
PROBLEM:- Salam is to wish blessing of Allah to the listeners. If therefore
in a sitting in masjid or else where are already engaged in recitation of Quran
and Durood etc. it is not desirable to divert their attention. It is not therefore
that they should reply. However if a man issitting quiet in the masjid, he can receive
and answer the salaam.
PROBLEM:- If some one is engaged in recitations or otherwise engaged in religious
or literary engagement or learning his lessons it is nilwise to divert his attention
by wishing him a loud with a salaam Similarly, one should not offer salaam when
Azan, Iqamat, Khutba of Friday or Eids in progress. Likewise when a scholar is addressing
his audience who are all attentively listening to him, then the new comer should
quietly sit down among the audience. He need not present the salaam.
PROBLEM:- Keeping are engaged in taking food. If some one comes at that time,
it is not necessary that the people taking food should salute him.
PROBLEM:- A man who is known for suiful activities, being a debanchee, transgressor
etc. He does not deserve salaam by the people. Similarly if a tyrant becomes nuisance
for his neighbours and demands that he should given salaam and other kind of respect
which would keep him pacified, then in order to escape harr treatment from people
as a safety device may outward by present salaam to him. In such a situation compromising
attitude becomes an unavoidable compulsion which becomes permissible.
PROBLEM:- When a salaam is conveyed through some one, it is essential for
him to do so it terms between them are so friendly, and the man has agreed to convey
the salaam. It is also obligatory for the pilgrims (Hujjaj) to convey the salaam
to the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)if people request him so.
PROBLEM:- In domestic friendly letters often salaam is conveyed to the relatives
and friends through the addresses. An answer to this kind of salam is also necessary.
First of the salaam should be conveyed to the persons concerned who are expected
to give a direct spoken reply as also to convey their own salaam to the sender of
salaam. A pious virtuous person waste not time in responding to the salaam conveyed
to them. They speak out the responded as a moral lesson how important and blissful
it is to receive and reply a salaam.
PROBLEM:- The salam should be conveyed in a reasonably loud voice so that
he may hear and respond on the spot.
PROBLEM:- Some people bend their back while offering salaam. If bending is
to the point of RUKU then it is haram, less then that is makrooh (detestable).
PROBLEM:- To say `Bandagi' or `Adab-e-Arz' or any such customary phrases
instead of the clearly spelt salaam is impressible rather haram, because it is a
clear violation of Islamic teaching. However the words/phrases like `Tasleemat'
or mere salaam. This can be tolerated because the roof or essence of these words
is salaam or peace which is the real intention of Islamic teaching.
SHAKE-HAND, EMBRACING, KISSING (HAND) STANDING (IN REVERENCE)
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that when two Muslims
shake hands on meeting, there sins are forgiven by Allah even before they part company.
PROBLEM:- Shaking hands is sunnat and it significance has been emphasised
in a number of Hadees. In one Hadees it is said when a Muslim shakes hands with
another Muslims brother, all his sins fall off. This happens each time two Muslims
shake hands with each other. It is Mustahab to shake hands with each other every
time two Muslims meet.
PROBLEM:- Shake hands or Musafah means joining the palms with other mans
palms, preferable of both hands, Merely touching fingers of one another does not
Musafah (shake hand) which is often seen on busy pathways or in crowds. While shaking
hands there should be no cloth or any thing in between hands.
PROBLEM:- Embracing (Mu'aa'naqah) is also permissible when the general condition
is conducive to meeting without fear and with a feeling of affection between the
two, when it is not likely to create a sensation of passion. The man with whom Muaaniqah
(embracing) is done should be dressed which means bare chested embarrassing is not
desirable. It is confined that the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon
him) has done embracing (mu'aa'niqah) with companions.
PROBLEM:- Mu'aa'niqah is common among fellow religionsts on the happy occasions
of both the Eids as also on occasions of festive celebrations. Mu'aa'niqah is desirable
among people of some age-group or grown up people. Adolescents or boys of raw age
need not be embraced as a rule especially when they are not so familiar or known
before.
Similarly, kissing of hands is also permissible but with a person of erudition and
religious knowledge where the feeling of reverence and honour should be the prime
motive kissing the forehead has the same motive behind it. Hazrat Abu Bak'r Siddique
(May Allah be pleased with him) had kissed between the eyebrows of the Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him). Kissing among the companions and their follower
has also been reported. Which makes eventual kissing as a source of mutual love
and respect.
PROBLEM:- Some people kiss their own hands after shaking hands with a religious
dignitary. This is makrooh (un desirable).
PROBLEM:- Religious scholars and Just and kind hearted King of Islam can
have their hands kissed by their devotees and admirer and this is permissible. It
is also permissible that if some obedient follower requests the virtuous scholar
to extend his hand or foot so that the devote may kiss them. The scholar is expected
to oblige the request maker.
PROBLEM:- Prostration of reverence for any dignified personality is haram,
even if it be as a matter of respect. When the prostration is done as a way of worship
whatever the stands of the person concerned is an act of Kuf'r (blasphemy).
PROBLEM:- Bending at the time of meeting of some one (as a formality or as
a matter of respect) is forbidden. Here bending means to the extent of RUKU in namaz.
PROBLEM:- Standing up by way of respect and honour for a religious dignitary
is not only permissible but also appreciable when the person concerned is qualified
for such a treatment.
SNEEZING AND YAWNING.
It is said by the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) the sneezing
is an act which is liked (and approved) by Allah,where as He does not like people
Yawning or gaping. When a Musalman sneezes and says `Al'hamdo Lilah' (All Praise
is due to Allah) it is necessary for a Musalman to say `Yarhamaka Allah' (May Allah
have mercy on you). Yawning is inspired by Devil satan, therefore one should try
to recheck the yawning as far as possible. When a man yawns, satan laughs at him
and enjoys it, because yawning is a symptom of laziness and negligence.
PROBLEM:- It is necessary that when yawn begins or is about to begin one
should put hand over his mouth.
PROBLEM:- In belch and sneeze the sound should be husband (not producing
loud noise).
PROBLEM:- The answer of a sneeze is wajib when the man says `Al'hamdo Lillah'.
The reply yarhamaka Allah should be prompt and audible. It the sneezer does not
say Al Hamdo Lillah, then it no return reply is due.
PROBLEM:- If the man sneezes more than three times, the reply should be restricted
to only three times.
PROBLEM:- When a woman sneezes, the reply is to be slightly audible if she
is an old woman and which she should hear. If the woman is young, the reply should
a subdued one, provided in both these cases the woman says Al-hamdo Lillah.
PROBLEM:- If during Khutba (sermon) some one sneezes, no reply is due.
PROBLEM:- If on sneezing a kafir says `Al hamdo Lillah' the reply should
Yah'deekallah' (May Allah guide you).
PROBLEM:- The sneezer should say `Al'hamdo Lillah' loudly so that all may
reply. If however only a single man replies, it will be on behalf of all present.
PROBLEM:- If before the sneezer the listener says "Al hamdo Lillah",then
the latter shall remain free from the tooth-ache and ear, pain, in another Hadees
it is reported that he shall be free from back-ache.
PROBLEM:- While sneezing one should lower his head, cover his face and subdue
the sound. Sneezing loudly is foolishness. (Note: Sneezing while talking is the
good omen of the man being a Just Witness (Shahid-de-adil).
PROBLEM:- Some people regard sneezing as a sign of ill omen especially before
starting new work or going out on some business. This is all false. How can such
a thing become bad or sign of bad-omen when it carries blessings from Allah.
SHAVING AND CIRCUMCISION
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said: Five things are
among the Traditions of the Apostles of Allah; (1) Have circumcision (2) remove
the hairs below the navel (3) Trim the moustache (4) clip the nails (5) remove the
hairs from under the arm-pit.
PROBLEM:- Clipping nails on Friday is Mustahab. However if nails have grown,
one should not wait for the Friday. large grown nails are the signs of shortening
of sustenances (livelihood).
METHOD OF CLIPPING NAILS
The clipping should begin the first finger of the right hand and end on the small
finger. Then beginning with the small finger of the left hand, end with the thumb
of the same hand. Lastly the nail of the right hand thumb be clipped. This means
that the clipping of nails begin with the right hand and ended with the same hand.
While clipping the nails of the toes (finger of feet) it should began with the small
toe (finger) of the right foot and end with the big toe of the left foot and with
the small toes of the same foot.
PROBLEM:- Nail-biting is prohibited, there is fear of leprosy (as a sign
of bad omen).
PROBLEM:- Mujahids (soldiers of Islam) while living in the territory of the
enemy, they should grow their beard and moustache so as cause fear and awe in the
hearts of the enemy.
PROBLEM:- Nail clipping every Friday is desirable if it may be inconvenient,
then once in a fortnight. In any case, nails should not be allowed to grow more
than forth days at a stretch.
PROBLEM:- Bathing once a week keeping the body and cloth her clean and removing
the under navel hair is Mustahab, for all these Friday is the day of choice. To
pluck the under hair is advisable for women (instead of using razor, blades etc)
to pluck or remove the hair in the nasal is not welcome it cause disease.
PROBLEM:- Trimming hair (head) and clipping nail while one is sexually unclean
(and needs bathing) is makrooh.
PROBLEM:- Eye brows when these outgrow may be trimmed. To shave hairs on
chest and back is dot desirable. However hairs can be removed from hands,feet and
belly.
BEARD AND MOUSTACHE
PROBLEM:- Growing beard is the tradition of the apostles of Allah. To shave
it clean or less than a closed fists length is haram. However if it outgrows a fists
measure, the excess can be trimmed.
PROBLEM:- To cut or pluck the arm pits hair of a girl child is a bid'at (a
contemptible innovation).
PROBLEM:- To shorten the moustache is sunnat, so much that only a layer appears
on the upper lip, According to another `hadees' clean shaving the moustache is recommended.
PROBLEM:- Elongated hairs of the moustache across the edges of the lips on
either side is not against the tenets. Rather the elders in the past used to keep
the moustache of this fashion.
PROBLEM:- To tie up the beard is not permissible. This is the custom of sikhs,
which is un Islamic. Now a days various fashions in the "maintenance" of the moustache
are noticeable. This is deplorable and purely against the spirit and teachings of
Islam obvious almost all the modern fashions emanate from the immoral and unseruputious
west. To irritate of copy then is to underrate and demolish the grandeur of Islamic
modes of character propounded and encouraged by Islam. This senseless rather shameless,
imitation of the defiled European practices has snapped the glorious principles
of Islam and Islamic society. The situation demands serious consideration of all
concerned.
PROBLEM:- Things have degenerated to such an extent that even some reckless
and unabashed muslim youths even not only criticize the keeping the beards, but
even cut jokes and make fun of the simple minded Muslims keeping beard and openly
ridicule and denounce this noble practice. Which afford manly look and spirit which
is the essence of Islamic life. May Allah guide the misguided and put them on the
right path. (Amin)
PROBLEM:- It is open for the man to keep the hair (of the head) in any manner
he likes. He can trim shave and grow them part them or not keep them unparted, but
there should be neatness, properly combed in order to give them manly grace and
glory. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has kept his sacred
hair, some time duly parted and some time allowed to grow but to a reasonable limit,
stretching upto shoulders or reaching the lopes of the ears, and he parted the hair
in the middle of the head. However Hazrat Ali (May Allah bright his visage) often
shaved his head.
PROBLEM:- Prolonging hair in the style of woman is not permissible often
the so called `Pirs' have long hairs hanging down the shoulders is very contemptible.
PROBLEM:- To pluck the grey hair or trim them with scissors is makrooh. Now
a days many imitative innovations are in display used by men and woman alike most
common of which is the use of bunch of artificials designed to match the common
hair style. This bunch of artificial is known as `Wigs'. This is more popular among
man who are their totally bald or have scanty number which is considered to be a
thing of joke or an object of satire/taunt among the so called enlightened and will
to do people, especially and the middle aged persons woman included.
PROBLEM:- It is matter of curse in the view of shariat laws if muslims woman
cut their hair to copy the werter christian ladies. This not only spoil the natural
beauty of there young women who look more boy like than the girls of their age.
PROBLEM:- Hairs either though shaving or trimming should not thrown to public
view or thrown inthe bathroom. These should be burred in the earth. Similarly the
nail clipping may be placed some where but thrown in the way. "To throw these things
in hamam (bath room or lavatory) is to invite ideas.
Problem Four things are strictly to be buried and to be kept out of public gaze.
These are (1) Hair (2) Nils (3) dirty cloth piece soiled with menses blood and (4)
Blood.
CIRCUMCISION
Circumcision is sunnat, this is one of the marks of distinction between the Muslims
and the Non-Muslim. It is reported that Hazrat Ibrahim (May Allah peace be upon
him) had his circumcision at the age of 80 years.
PROBLEM:- Agewise the circumcision should be done between 7 and 12 years.
Some scholars are of the view that circumcision may be carried out when the child
is 7 days old. (Note: In the modern days of advance medical science, some have their
children circumcised in the hospital when they 2 - 3 days old).
PROBLEM:- When circumcising a boy if the earmarked portion is cut more than
half, it should be regarded as full operation. No fresh circumcision is necessary.
It however, less than is cut their fresh operation is necessary.
PROBLEM:- Converts to Islam need circumcision. If the convert is of advance
age and can not hear the pain etc of circumcision he need be compelled to have the
same circumcision can be undertaken by any man who is experienced in this job.
PROBLEM:- Circumcision is the responsibility of the father of the son. If
father is not alive, the child guardian there the grand father of the child then
his nominee in the Will. It is not the responsibility of the maternal or paternal
uncles (or their nominee). However if the child is under the guardianship of his
uncles, then can be called upon the bear the responsibility.
PROBLEM:- There is no restriction to bore the ears of the women. In the days
of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) women were allowed to
have their ears bored.
PROBLEM:- Castrating men is haram, so is making them eunuchs. There is difference
of opinion if horses should be castrated, however it is permissible other animals
may be castrated if this yield meat of quality. He goats is very mischievous in
this regard. If he is allowed to behave in his natural moods he becomes source of
in convenience, Beside, the meat of an un castrated he goat/sheep or is definitely
of a good standard both for eating or commercial purposes.
EMBELISHMEND / DECORATION
Hazrat Ayesha (May Allah bless her) has report that the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him) liked the fine scented perfumes and she used to apply these
scent/perfumes on his clothes which at times shove brightly in his head and his
beard. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) applied oil over his
head and combed his beard. He has said that the man who has (enough)hairs, he must
take care of them, wash them and apply oil and do combing. He has however forbidden
combing the hair daily, the idea being that man should not waste time in self make
up. He has advised to apply the collyrium of atmad stone as it brightens and enhances
the vision and eyesight and cause growth of the eyelashes. The Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) had his own collyrium container. He used to apply collyrium
each night with metal stick, three times in each eye.
PROBLEM:- It is haram a woman uses man's hair as a lock of hair on head.
There is curse reported in the Hadees for doing for both the woman who uses the
lock and the woman who helps in this work. However it is permissible the plaif or
lock of hair is made from black cloth straps or black thread, Similarly plucking
the eye brows with pair of steel prongs for the purpose of beautification is also
condemned in the Hadees Sharif.
PROBLEM:- Boring ears of girls is permissible, but doing so for boys is not
permissible.
PROBLEM:- Use of Henna (Hina, myrtle leaves) for woman is permissible, it
is an embellishment or thing of beauty. Girls can also use the henna, but to apply
Henna to small children without any reason is not allowed.
PROBLEM:- Asmad stone collyrium is allowed, but to use black surma or lamp
soot (kajal) for beauty or make up is impressible.
PROBLEM:- Hanging picture of man (and woman) and animals is not permissible.
However paintings of scenes/scenario of holy places, spots of natural growths such
as trees, mountain rivers together with monograms of letter etc all these as decorative
pieces are permissible.
PROBLEM:- Use of black hair-dye is not permissible, but colouring the hair
with Henna and Katam leaves (made as hair-dye) is permissible.
RIGHTFUL EARNING
There is a Hadees in the Bukhari Sharif, according to which the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) has said that a time will come when the people will
not bother about an earning/getting money being halal or haram, and no particular
effort shall be made so secure the money from rightful and valid sources only, which
is source of blessing the reward of which has also been promised in the Hereafter.
As against this earning/getting money through haram and unlawful means is a curse,
the source of disgrace and perpetual loss not only in this world but also in the
Hereafter. May Allah save us from the clutches of this ignominy. Amin.
PROBLEM:- To earn by honest labour is compulsory (Farz) on a Muslim the amount
of money as would meet the family expenses as are due upon him. including himself
besides fulfilling conditions in the field of religious obligations. To earn more
than the essential unavoidable expenses that arise from time to time as also to
save something is welcome and appreciable from any points of view. If the parents
are poor and unable to maintain themselves, then the responsibility of supporting
and sustaining them through thick and thing of life would also become the bounded
duty of the earing son(s) so that they may not feel themselves as destitute.
PROBLEM:- Some people sit down in the Mosques and Khanqas, calling themselves
as Mutawakkils (Reliants on the Divinity for their sustenance etc) all this is mere
self deception and avoiding the responsibility of earning and maintaining there
life in a decent and praiseworthy manner. This is the essence of Islamic teachings
which aim at guarding and enhancing the human dignity. To sit idle in places of
worship (Masjids) and Remembrance of Allah (Khanqahs) in the hope that people would
come and after them means of sustenances is the total negation of pristine Islamic
teaching, it is below the dignity of persons who thoughtlessly indulge in such practice.
PROBLEM:- The best endeavour and the best earning is the wealth and other
material good that come by as the spoils (mal-e-ghaminat) of Jehad or fighting in
the way of Allah, But taking part in the jehad should not be with a view to plunder
or get the money and the material of the opponents of Islam. After Jehad come in
that as means of earning are business and trade agriculture (cultivation of land),
industry and finally, craftsmanship which obviously includes all kinds of manual
and intellectual labour, involving skill technical/mechanical know-how, of which
there is no limit.
PROBLEM:- Spinning wheels (charkha) is the job of women folk, it is simply
unbecoming of men of any grade and standing, not even in the name of any movement,
as the movement of spinning wheel was very much in the news and practical demonstration
in the sub-continent.
PROBLEM:- If the man who is known to be earning money through haram means
ides leaving his legacy for his inheritors, it is the moral and religious obligation
of these survivors to return the money which were unlawfully usurped, to the concerned
persons, and if they are unknown, to give all the ill-gotten money in charity and
sadaqah.
MAR BIL MARUF AND NIHI ANIL MUNKAR
(Commanding Good and Forbidding Evil)
ALMIGHTY ALLAH says in the Holy Quran, "There should be a group among you who should
invited and command men to Goodness and pro habit and forbid them from Evil. These
are the people who will attain prosperity". (Surah Ale Imran: verse).
In the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has also said, "If any
one of you sees any evil, he should check it by hand (force) if he is capable, or
forbid it through words of mouth and if he can not do so he should regard it as
evil in his heart, and this is the last grade of Eiman". He has also said, "I wear
in the Name of One in Whose Hand is my life, either you (momins)shall command Good
and forbid Evil or Allah's Wrath will descend upon you, and if you will then pray
(for Mercy), your prayer shall not be answered (and accepted)".
He has also said that in a community where evil doing is rampant and the people,
in spite of being capable to check it and yet do not do so, it is likely that Allah
will soon send upon them the painful punishment. He further said, "Allah Shall not
punish the entire community on account of the few evil doers among them, but when
evil (and corruption) becomes common and the people, in spite of being capable,
fail to check (and suppress) the evil then the entire will suffer punishment from
Almighty Allah".
He has also said, "The best Jihad is to tell the Truth (about tyranny and corruption)
in the presence (on the mount) of the tyrant suttam (kind, head of the government)".
PROBLEM:- If a man intends doing an evil but checks himself and refrains
form committing it, there is no sin against him, on the contrary, he shall be rewarded
for his having shunned the evil.
And if the man is determined to commit a sin and some how does do it, then for his
determination he will have to suffer.
PROBLEM:- When some one seen doing single act, he should be persuaded politely
to refrain form it, if this is not enough, he should rebuked and reprimanded with
out resorting to abusing and filthy language. Finally mild preventive force without
causing physical hurt may be used and his object of evil should be snatched from
him.
PROBLEM:- There are possibilities in the way of "Amr bil Maruf" (commanding
Good and "Nihi anil Munkar" (Forbidding Evil) and these should be care fully sorted
before taking any action in this behalf.
(1) When it is definite that the people concerned will listen to persuasion and
regain from continuing the evil then `Arm bil Maruf' is obligatory and there should
be no negligence in this regard.
(2) If it is feared that evil doers will not listen to the advice and instead, will
react by offensive criticism an devon abusing then it is blissful not to proceed
further
(3) If there is danger of counter reaction namely abuse fro abuse, physical attack
leading to general disorder, then it is preferable not to invite trouble.
(4) If it is known that in case they resort to physical violence but this man will
hold patience and tolerance in reply to their aggressive behaviour and continue
his mission till they relent and repent and finally give up the evil. Then this
man of strong faith and conviction shall be regarded and rewarded as a MUJAHID.
(5) When it felt that even/though they will not accept the invitation to shun the
evil, but they will also not resort to physical violence nor even abuse, then it
is open to the man to do what he deems fit. But preferable it is to tell the people
again and again to refrain from the evil and concentrate on doing good.
PROBLEM:- If it is apprehended that the evil doers will ultimately kill the
caller to the Goodness who sticks to his Mission in face of grave dangers which
unfortunately proved to be true, then the man will not be blamed, because what he
did was in the way of Allah and not for his personal interest. He will be acclaimed
as `Shaheed' and rewarded as such in this world as well as in the Hereafter.
KNOWLEDGE - LEARNING AND TEACHING
By the word knowledge or "Ilm" is not the sort of education which man has introduced
in fields of his experience and intellectual pursuit. The word knowledge in this
context is equated with the most common terminology "science" or sciences under
various exclusive and specialised branches. There too are the brain work of human
knowledge and experience though these sciences are also based on natural phenomenal
working in the scheme of the Universe. But since the depth and insight of human
Vision and Experience are limited and confined with the working or behaviour of
human intellect they are, by and large, purely mundane or transient subject to development
and decay, they can not be relied upon for the "Eternal" Benefit of mankind which
may endure in the pursuit of Eternal Peace and tranquility both in this world and
the "One To Follow" the Hereafter.
In the latter group of knowledge with which we are concerned is the exposition of
Divine secrets which we can not achieve otherwise than the Holy Quran and the sunnah
or the Ahadees of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him). On these
Divine ordained knowledge depends the success and Prosperity in the world as the
Deliverance in the Hereafter. The Holy Quran has divided the human species into
two branches, namely (1) those who know and (2) those who do not know. It is said,
(O Prophet! are those who have knowledge and those who ahve no knowledge equal?
Surely those learn and remember who are men of wisdom. Many qualities and attributes
of Ilm and knowledge have also been mentioned in may Ahadees of the Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him). Some of these Ahadees are presented below,
Whom so ever Almighty Allah wishes prosperity and success, He bestows Understanding
(and comprehension) of Deen on him, I distribute (and award) what Allah grants (among
the chosen member of mankind).
He said, "The superior of a man with knowledge over a devotee in worship is like
the superiority which I possess over you (people)."
He said, "Allah and His Angels and all creatures inhabiting the heavens and the
earth (The Universe), even an ant in her clay hole and the fish (in the expose of
sea water) pray for the prosperity (in all respects) of those who impart useful
knowledge to people."
He said, "A learned scholars of Deen possesses grater power than what one thousand
(formal) worshipers exert on the devil (satan)."
He said, "A acquisition of knowledge is binding upon every muslim man and woman."
He said, "One who keeps (impart) knowledge to a worthless fellow is like the man
who adorn a swine with a garland knitted jewels and pearls".
He said, "One who leaves home and goes in search of knowledge is in the Path of
Allah till he returns home."
Hazrat Ibn Abbas (may Allah be please with him) has said, "To receive or impart
knowledge (even) for an hour at night is far more blissful that doing so for the
whole night."
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, "The Ins (used
by) of a learned scholar shall be weighed with the blood of a martyrs and will have
dominance over it."
The similitude of the learned scholars (of Deen) is that of the stars in the sky
which guided the wayfarers in the land (dark forests etc) and in the vast expanse
of the oceans (where the direction are very difficult to determine without the aid
of scientific appliances).
He said, " One who seeks knowledge and gets it he is twice blessed compared to the
man who does not succeed in acquiring the desire knowledge and even then he is rewarded
with one onward for his endeavours.
PROBLEM:- A young man with knowledge has preponderance over an aged but illiterate
man and as such he should not be given less respect and recognition than that given
to illiterate old man, "The right of a learned man over his un educated compatriot
is the same as a teacher over his student(s). If the learned man leaves his seat
temporarily the uneducated man has no right to occupy his seat (whatever his position
other wise in the society).
PROBLEM:- The search and acquisition of knowledge with sincere and honest
intentions is better than every kind of good deed, because the blessings of the
knowledge benefit all and sundry, where as the benefits of good deed are restricted
the man concerned only.
PROBLEM:- The teacher and the taught (student) should pay due regard to things
used on acquiring knowledge, specially books manuscripts, monogram etc. Books should
not be kept on the ground (earth) nor should the carried to places of answering
calls of nature (lavatory, w.e. etc). Books should be handled with cleaned washed
hands, preferably after coming out from private places.
PROBLEM:- Due respects should be paid to the teacher. If any thing wrongs
to notice it should not be broadcast, that would lower the value of the teaches.
To err is human and every one is liable to commit mistake some time or the other.
This should be kept fresh in mind.
HALAL AND HARAM ANIMALS
It is difficult to describe the name and qualities of the animals which are halal
or haram as a class or category or in terms of their habitat and habits. However
some specific qualitier or nature can be stated here on account of which the defaults
can be determined.
PROBLEM:- Animals with sharp nail like teeth with which they catch or kill
their prey are as rule haram, for example, tiger, lion, jackal, fox, dog,, etc.
However camel who has also teeth of this type is not haram because it does not hunt
any animal (strangely camel can be described as a grazing animal!).
PROBLEM:- Birds which hunt their prey with sharp laws are also haram, for
example hawk, eagle, nultures kite, etc. Animals living underneath clay/earth or
in crevices are also haram, eg. rat, lizard, chameleon, snake, scorpion, crocodile,
etc. Insect like lice, bug, fly, frog.
PROBLEM:- Domestic donkey and mule are haram wild donkey, is halal. About
horse opinions differ. Some regard horse as an appliance of war/fight in jehad and
opine that it race should not be subject to extinction. However, we read in Islamic
history that Arabs often kill and roast their pet horse to feed emergency guests
of caulk in their society.
PROBLEM:- Cow, buffalo sheep, goat, deer, antelope,,
stag,and rabbit are halal.
PROBLEM:- Partridge, quail, hen, pigeon, magpie, dove, ducks of all varieties,
crane,,, etc are halal.
PROBLEM:- Tortoise (land or water) crow are haramwhich resembles crow is
halal.
PROBLEM:- Among the sea creatures only fish is halal, but the fish which
dies in the water and turns the other way is haram. Locust is also halal. Fish and
locust without slaughtering are halal. There is a Hadees saying two dead corpse
are halal namely fish and locust.
PROBLEM:- Fish dying on account of hot or cold water, in the net, contaminated
water, kept in the ditch or narrow earthen pot (suffocation), in all these conditions
which cause death, the fishes are halal.
PROBLEM:- About shrimp or prawn it is not clear whether it is halal or haram,
some do not regard it is a variety of fish. There fore they prefer to avoid it.
PROBLEM:- Small fishes when fried or roasted without slitting the stomach
are halal.
PROBLEM:- Cow, hen if it starts eating rotten bad smell in stuff which get
into their stomach with the result that they emit bad smell should be tied down
and kept away from eating rotten stinking stuff for some days and when they become
free from bad smell, they can be eaten.
PROBLEM:- An uncastrated goat also smell stink because it drink urine. It
flesh also stinks and should therefore be not eaten. usually these stinking goats
are employed to copulate with she goat and produce your ones.
PROBLEM:- While being slaughtered if the naimal runs away gets drowned and
dies or dies in that condition for some other reason, it is halal as the cause of
death is slaughtering and not drowning on falling.
PROBLEM:- A piece of flesh cut off from the body of the animal for example
the fat from the chakki of lamp or lump of a camel is haram by itself. However if
the animal is slaughtered then the animal as well as it piece of flesh both are
halal.
PROBLEM:- When an arrow is host at an naimal and a piece of flesh flies off
its, then if the animal survives in spite of piece of flesh torn of its body, then
it is haram. If the head falls off and the naimal is slaughtered, then the animal
as also its head can be eaten as halal.
PROBLEM:- IF a piece of cut off from the fish, this piece is halal and if
the fish dies in the water on account of this slicing off its body, the fish is
also halal.
PROBLEM:- The animal of which the flesh is not eaten, if it be slaughtered
according to shariat rites, then its flesh fat and skin get purified except the
swine whose every part un unclean (najis). If the fat etc of such animal is intended
to be used externally, then it is better to slaughter the animal because in that
condition its use will not render the clothes etc as dirty or impure.
RACING AND OTHER FESTIVAL ACTIVITIES
PROBLEM:- On the occasions of Eids, wedding ceremonies and other festivals,
playing on (duffs) tambourines is permissible, provided the instrument is off simple
make, without any additional ornaments which produce additional musical sounds of
lyrical notes.
PROBLEM:- Blowing bytes to awaken the people during Ramzan nights or as an
alarm to warn and inform general public on the arrival of any dignitary or occasions
is also permissible, on this analogy the sounding of sirens (by the government)
and trumpets on such like moments is also valid because this is not associated with
any extravaganza display of riches or uncontrolled loud tonal music etc. The sounding
of buzzers in big workshops and factories to inform the people of the beginning
lunch interval or closure of working hours is also permissible, as it meant for
the convenience of the worker and people at large.
PROBLEM:- Playing dice games such as chess, chaser and gajicah (local names
of games) played by men in paris on the boards / thick painted clothes with dice
or dots and other games are included in mirthful preoccupation and as such are forbidden.
According to Hadees Sharif only three kinds of playful activities. (1)with one's
wife (2) Horse-riding and (3) Orchery.
PROBLEM:- Dancing, clapping, guitar (also sitar) harmonium, drum and musical
instrument are forbidden to be played.
PROBLEM:- Now a day mehfils of Qawwali are held in which modern musical instruments
are played along with the singing of songs, solo or in chorus. If these sitting
are kept within reasonable limits without undue liberty of playing music with instrument,
then there can be no objection to it. But when the audience willfully and with intentions
of pure sentimental enjoyment indulge in clapping, singing and dancing in chorus
and in company, then the very purpose and sanctity of these soul purifying and emotion,
inspiring function/mehfils are killed and the occasions become sources of Displeasure
of Allah and defiance of the commandment enunciated in the Ahadees of the Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him). These to unbridled activities by unscrupulous
peopleare what they call as HAAL (Ecstasy). This is a pure misnomer, as such a thins
is never permitted in the commands of Shariat. No doubt in spiritual mehfils at
times genuine ecstatic turned over bearing spiritual demonstrationdo take place
in which high grade spiritual- leaders to driven to a state of self unconsciousness
and in those entranced moment they stand up and engage themselves in slow rhythmic
movements of their footsteps accompanied by swaying of their body or circling round
endlessly, unless they themselves stop it too lie in a state of semi-consciousness.
This happens when some poetic lines sung the Qawwali touch their subline spiritual
chords and they are spiritually inspired and uplifted resulting in their afore said
ecstatic semi-conscious behaviour which throws it own spiritual charms on the spell
hound listener and spectators. Obviously there is a world of different between the
two sets of demonstration by genuinely inspired spiritual leaders and those pseudo
"Hall" () players whose simple aim is to defame and discredit these spiritual gatherings
and denounce the spiritual leaders.
PROBLEM:- To rear and trained pigeons is also becoming wide spread among
the group of idlers and wasters of money in this gainless practice. It does no good
to the pigeons either, on the contrary it is binding the free fliers in the serve
atmospheres of he sky. More over the trainer and his accomplices climb the roofs
or the house tops to train and supervise the movement of these bonded labouring
pigeons ! This causes resentment among the veil observing families living around.
Their privacy is disturbed as the roof climbers do not restrict themselves in pigeon
fly, but among them so unscrupulous even do not feel ashamed in peeping a and prying
in to house inmates who are disturbed in their movement even with in the four walls
of their own hours and tenements!
PROBLEM:- Similarly staging cock fights, bull fights, buffalo fights are
also forbidden. To witness and to participate in these animal fights which result
invariably in bleedings and at time deaths of the poors, all are haram. Gambling
and waging bets on these fights are among the major sins which the people concerned
must give up forth with and seek forgiveness from Almighty Allah.
PROBLEM:- Wrestling bouts if one participates in them with the healthy inventive
of developing muscular and physical vitality are not forbidden. If the intentions
of taking part in wrestling are widened to serve the cause of Islam and to take
part in Islamic Crusades (Jihad) against the enemies of Islam and Musalman, the
these wrestlings shall become the source of Divine blessing which will bring fortunes
in the mundane as well as in the spiritual world. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him) also took part in wrestling. Once a non believer wrestler
`RUKANA' by name challenged him that if the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace
be upon him) defeated him, he will embrace Islam where upon the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) threw him three times on the floor and Rukana accepted
Islam.
PROBLEM:- Doll making and doll playing among the girls are permissible. Ummul
Mumineen Hazrat Ayesha (May Allah be pleased with her) often took part in playing
will dolls with the girls though not in the presence of but within the knowledge
the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) and he never objected to
it.
PROBLEM:- Competition or match (MUSABAQAT) to prove one's excellence and
efficiency in any healthy pursuit is permissible. The competitions which are approved
from the Shariat point of view should be such as will intimately encourage participations
in the crusades or Jihad against the enemies of Islam. The most popular and useful
in this respect are the competitions in horse and camel racing, archery, aiming
at the target with bullets in any weapon swords manship running in specified distances
as a competition. Prizes in cash or kind (such as in the modern age awarding cups,
shields, trophies etc by way of encouragement.
The idea behind all these competitions should be in addition to building one's own
standard it physical fitness and winning awards, the promotion of the cause of Islam
and the betterment of humanity at large, luxuries and indulgence in immoral activities
which we witness in almost all the social and cultural activities of the modern
world are never approved and admired in Islam.
PROBLEM:- The prize or whatever is announced as a reward for the winner in
any competition (or match) is his halal and pure due and must be given to him, but
there is no legal right over it and the winner can not claim it in any court of
law. Now a days the fields and number of competitions have increased beyond count.
But the fundamental principle under each and every competition should be healthy
endeavour to secure excellence and superiority of one competitor over the over or
of one team against the other team in a collective manner. Whatever is held good
and admirable for an individual is also good and admirable for the team or the combined
group of competitors. The aim and object in every competition should be healthy
and moral rivalry between the participants in the game or sport . open brazen display
of immorality and ethical in decency should be avoided and kept at bay in any competition
whatever it s nature, physical, cultural, intellectual, educational and social reform
etc.
CURE AND OMEN INCLUDING SPELL, ENCHANTMENT
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that disease and
cure both are from Allah. He has provided medicine for every disease, but haram
means of treatment or cure must be avoided. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and
peace by upon him) has also advised not to force or compel the patient to take the
medicine as Allah feeds (provides cure for) the patient. He has also said that when
the patient expresses desires for something (to eat) it should be given to him,
however, the nature of the desire should be kept in view. If the desire is genuine
then only it should be fulfilled. The patient should refrain from demanding and
eating anything which under medical opinion are not useful during sickness. This
point been illustrated by the following Hadees. Hazrat Umme Munzir has said that
one day the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) came to my home alongwith
Hazrat Ali (May Allah brighten his visage) who was feeling weakness on account of
his recent illness. In the courtyard of the house, bunches of dates were hanging.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) took and ate few dates from
the bunch. Hazrat Ali also desired to eat them , but the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace upon him) checked him and said You are (suffering from) weak (ness). Later
Umme Munzir brought the food cooked with barley and sugar beat. The Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him) said to Hazrat Ali to eat of it, it is useful
for you.
From this Hadees it is clear that a patient should be given the food which is good
for him and not all that be desires.Some Ahadees of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him),
"Incantation (jhar phoonk) is nothing but it is better than evil eye (nazar-e-bad)
and stinging of poisonous insect.
The evil eye should be cured through incantation. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him) has said jhar phoonk (incantation) can be used (as or cure)
if it is free from shirk (associating any diety or power with Allah).
He has said contagion is nothing nor is there any disease contagious by itself.
Similarly bed-omen and tamah are also nothing nor the month of safar contains ill
effects. Run (keep off) from the leper as you run from the lion (out of fear).
It is reported that once a behaviour came to the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and
peace be upon him) and asked, How is it O Prophet Allah! that or camel in the desert
remains as clear and tidy as a dear, but a camel suffering from seabies (itch) it
make the neat camel also seabies (or taken by itching). The Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) asked the bedouin as to who struck the diseased camel
as such. The idea is that as the first camel was overtaken by the disease, was the
other camel offer (due to contamination. The disease in itself is not contagious
but the affected person (patient) is. Similarly the advice for keeping off the leper
is to remove the cause of contagion. IF some others gets the disease he will blame
other disease person, where asthe fact that it is the disease that strikes the person
He has said there is nothing like bad omen, where as Omen is a good thing. On being
asked what is omen, he said, (By omen is meant) the auspicious (blissful) words
which a person hears while going any where or beginning a new work. This is known
as Ful-eHasan (good Omen).
He has said, To take omen from bird is shirk. (He repeated these words thrice) whosoever
is from amongst us, he must reply upon Allah and on tohis job (errand mission).
He said, Omen is a good thing and he should discard any (and every) thing of and
omen. he must continue going on his mission even if a bad omen comes in his way.
whenever he comes across a thing which undesirable, he should come back but proceed
on his mission. On confronting an evil omen, he should recite,
(O Allah! none brings good things but You i.e. with Your (permission-power) and
none removes evil but You i.e. with Your permission. There is nothing to encompass
and there is no Power except Almighty Allah.)
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, Plague is a sign
of Allah punishment, with which Allah inflicts some of His servants. When you hear
about plague at any place and when you go there where is the plague is do not run
away from there.
He also said, Plague is a calamity, ALLAH descends it on whosoever desires ALLAH
has made plague a source of Blessing for the Believers. The place where plague has
broken out, if a person (believer!) stay there with patience and forbearance and
fortitudes with the hope of Mercy from Allah believing and having full Faith that
whatever Allah has writtenwill happen for him is the reward of a Martyr (Shaheed).
PROBLEM:- Taking medicine for cure of the disease is necessary and permissible,
with a belief that ALLAH will grant him recovery (and not the medicine) But if he
thinks that the medicine will cure him, then this unjust (and sign of weakness of
Faith).
PROBLEM:- To use any part (organ) of human body by way of medicine is haram.
Dry bones without any tinge of dampness of slaughtered animals can be sued as medicine,
but every part of the swine including its bones and hair is absolutely haram even
for medicine. If the bones of any animal are to be sued as unedible medicine, then
the animal should be a halal one. The bones of a dead animal can not be used as
medicine.
PROBLEM:- The use of haram things or medicines is haram. According to Hadees
there is no cure which endowed by Allah in things which are haram. Some books on
medicine contain statements regarding the qualities of things of cure for certain
diseases. If it is confirmed form such books that if some things which are known
as medicine. However even in these things it is to be kept in mind that the cure
(shifa) is not in that thing itself but is in the use in certain given circumstances,
which may or may not prove effective. This bears analogy with haram things which
are permitted to be used to save the life of a dying man. Foreign medicines which
contain alcohol (liquour) should never be use.
PROBLEM:- If a man dies for not using any medicine can not be regarded a
sinner. This means that seeking treatment through medicine is not obligatory. However
is case o extreme hunger and thirst when food and drink is available, if amn dies
without using them he will be considered sinner.
PROBLEM:- Use of liquor (alcohol) even for external or oral treatment is
forbidden eg. for treating a wound on which liquor applied, or use of wine (brandy
etc) for providingrelief to infect and small children is also forbidden and the
person using liquor in this way will be taken as sinner.
PROBLEM:- Enema can be given as a medicine provided the compound of medicines
or the medicine itself does not contain anything haram, such as liquor (wine, alcohol).
PROBLEM:- Forced abortion is absolutely forbidden except in extreme circumstances
in which the life of the expectant mother or its child or both are in grave danger.
Even other wise abortion of a child with less than one hundreds and twenty day's
pregnancy is not permissible.
GOOD MORAL CONDUCT
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, "Nothing better
has been endowed to mankind them good moral character, and the man most perfect
in Eimaan is one who bear excellent moral character, and good among you are those
whose conduct is good". He has also said, " I have been sent (as a Prophet) to raise
moral conduct to perfection (which means achieving accomplishment in moral conduct
is the Mission of the Apostle of Allah).
PROBLEM:- It is reported in the Hadees suppresses one who anger despite having
power to express it on his opponent, on the Day of Judgement will call him in form
of all the people and tell him to go in any group of Paradise Hoors (and select
the Paradise Virgin as a reward for suppressing his anger). In another Hadees it
is said, " Allah is Merciful and kind and loves kindness and affection. He lay stress
on kindness and not on severity and harshness.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said any one who is denied
the traits of leniency and tolerance is denied of the virtue of Goodness.
He has also said, Shyness or (as a virtue) consists in Eiman and Eiman is in the
Paradise and talking absurd is oppression (and injustice) the abode of this is in
he'll.
He also said, Eimaan and shyness are twins, when one is removed the other too disappears.
It is reported one man telling about shyness (haya) and reprimanding him why he
was so much observing Haya. One hearing this the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and
peace be upon him) commanded to leave him alone (and not give him any advice), Haya
(shyness as virtue) is in Paradise.
ADOPTING COMPANY OF THE GOOD PEOPLE AND AVOIDING EVIL DOERS
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said `Adopt company of
none but of men of Eiman'. He also said, `Sit among the elders and learn things
from the religious scholars (Ulema). The good friend is one who reminds remembrance
of Allah when you forget and helps you when remember Him. The good companion in
one whose visage revives you remembrance of Allah and his talks encourage you for
doing goods and his activities remind you of the Day of Judgement. He said, `The
example of a good and badcompanion is a kin to a musk seller and the furnace bellower
respectively. The former either will you something or the good smell will reach
you (in his present), while the latter will either burn your clothes or the bad
smell of the smoke will cause you extreme trouble.'
He also said, `Have no company with the person who does not recognize your worth,
at least as much as you have regard for him, who expects fulfillment of his rights
from you while he ignores his duty towards you.
Hazrat Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) has said, `do not indulge in things
which are of no benefit to you, Keep off from your enemy and keep a distance from
the friend who is also an ameen (trustee, keeper of things as a trust, amanat) no
one can equal an ameen, who fears Allah most. Do not keep company with an unchaste
and evil does having no regard for moral virtues, he will teach you his own evil
doing and moral laxity, do not open your secrets before him, and consult your affairs
only with those (trust worthy people) who fear Allah.
Hazrat Ali (May Allah brighten hi visage) has said, `do not keep company with an
evil charactered man (Fajir), he will try to induce you (as something bright) with
his behaviour and would very much like to soil You with his doings and present his
worst deeds as best ones. His visits to you and to your kins is a matter of shame
and grave fault. Also do no friendship with fools and crazy, he will cause you trouble
and will not bring any benefit to you even if he tries to do so, his silence is
better that speech, and distance better than nearness, death better than life, also
do not keep company with liars, it will benefit you, he will carry your secrets
to others and bring those of others to you. If you tell the truth he will stick
to falsehood.
FRIENDSHIP AND ENMITY FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that in respect
of Eiman the strongest Bond with Allah is Friendship with Him, and the emotional
links of love and Enmity should be with Allah. One day the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) asked his companion if they knew what deed is most
appreciated by Allah. Some one said, Namaz (prayers) Fasting and Zakat and some
others companion said, `JIhad' (cursade in the way of Allah). The Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace upon him) replied the best deed for the Pleasure of Allah is to
entertain Friendship and Enmity of the sake of Allah. He said that when some one
loved some one else for the sake of Allah, he upheld and elevated the Honour and
dignity of Allah. He also said "Persons who expresses love for Allah shall be honoured
by having been seated in the Chairs of Ruby round about the Arsh."
He also said, Allah says Those who love one another fro My sake and Sit together,
meet one another and spend money (for My sake) On Me their Love has become due."
One man siad, O Prophet of Allah! what about the person who loves certain community
but has not met them, nor rendered deeds as noble as their? The Holy Prophet (Allah
grace and peace be upon him) replied, "Man's destiny is linked with those whom he
loves."
For this Hadees it is evident that the company of noble makes a man noble and his
destiny shall be like and with them. Likewise the company of evil doers will in
still evil in his thoughts and behaviour and his destiny will be like theirs.
One day a companion enquired from the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon
him) as to when the Day of Judgment will occur. He asked the companion, "What preparations
have you made for that Day?" The companion meekly and respectfully replied, "None!
O Prophet of Allah! I only know that I Love Allah and His Prophet. Thereupon the
Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) affectionately reassured him
that the ultimate destiny of his will be with those whom he loved. Hazrat who narrated
the episode said that the happiness and glad things brought to him (and the Musalman)
was the greatest after the acceptance of Islam.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) also said, `Man remains in
the Deen of the person with who he has befriended. It must therefore he observed
what kind of man is whom he makes his friend."
He further said, ` Once Allah sent a revelation (Wahi) to an Apostle asking him
to tell the Devotee of his community that his real comfort and solace o of person
lay in the piety and the uninvolvement in the mundane (worldly) affairs, and his
honour is through the constancy of his regard towards Allah the Lord Creator. He
was asked if he had fulfilled his obligation "by his deeds," the man would ask,
" What deed, my Lord?" The Divine reply will be " was your friendship and Enmity
with any one for My sake in the world?"
He also said that when a man desires to make friendship with any one, he should
first ask his and his father's name and the tribe (community or fraternity) he belongs.
This will make the friendship stronger and more enduring. He has also said that,
If a person Loves some one the latter should be informed of this. He further to
keep the friendship up toa reasonable limit, because it is not improbable that some
day he might turn into an enemy. Similarly the enmity should also limited, it is
quite possible that some day he may become his friend.
TELLING LID
Telling Lie is such a despicable habit that it is universally cursed and there is
not a single religion in the world, past and present which has not condemned lie
or falsehood. Islam has warned severally against telling lie and many verses of
the Holy Quran have also denounce and cursed this evil of human character. There
is clear condemnation, "Curse of Allah on the falsehood mongers and liars. Many
Hadees also contain strictures and condemnation upon the liars, besides denouncing
falsehood as a human trait. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)
has said, "When a person tells lie, the angels goes a mile away on account of its
bad smell." He has also said, "A momin is not completer in Eimaan unless he gives
up telling lie even in frivolous joke and gossips, and gives quarreling even thought
he may be right (and might win in the end).
He also said, "A man speaks in a light hearted manner merely to please the people
and make them laugh and he does not realize that by doing that he is falling so
deep in the hell that the measure of depth is more than the distance between the
earth and the sky. And the faltering that occurs through he slip of the tongue is
far more greater than that occurs through false steps. Hazrat Abdullah bin Aamir
narrated that one day the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) had
come to visit our family. My mother called me indicating that she would give me
something. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) asked what she
wanted to give. She replied I will give him dates. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him) said if you did not give him anything a lie would have been
recorded against your name.
He has also said, Falsehood blackens the face of the lier and back biting is the
punishment of the grave.
PROBLEM:- On three occasions telling a lie is permitted and there is no punishment
for this, (1) in the midst of fight because to deceive the enemy in the war is permissible.
Similarly when fearing oppression at the hands of a tyrant a lie may be told to
word off the cruelty. (2) To effect peace between two fighting Muslims if a lie
can patch up the difference it can be used.(3) To please the wife a lie may be used
as a measure of appeasement.
PROBLEM:- Tauria (), we describe it as a conversational device whereby we
use a word or phrase not exactly in the literal sense or dictionary meaning but
some thing opposite or implied. This is with view to avoid any untoward or unwanted
situation which the ordinary meaning of to spoken word would have created. This
is permissible but only in rare occasions, because unless the real intentions are
made clear, the wrong and offended sense would have continued to embarrass the situation.
Tauria is very near to telling a lie unless it is intended to avert a difficult
situation.
PROBLEM:- IF the desired aim can be secured by telling the truth as well
as a lie, it is better to tell the truth and avoid the lie, which (lie)in itself
is haram. however in certain cases telling lie is permissible rather morally necessary.
For example if a tyrant is determined to kill an innocent person purely for personal
unjustifiable reason. If he takes refuge in some body's house which no one except
the house owner knows. IF the tyrant or any one on his behalf wants to know the
whereabouts of the wanted amn. The house owner can safely plead ignorance and thus
save the life of the innocent man. The example can be multiple, but the intentions
behind each "false he" should be of some benefit (lawful and valid).
PROBLEM:- Some one commits an indecent and immoral deed which none but he
knows. Now if some one asks about it, he can deny because if he discloses the fact
this will be another guilt, especially the inquirer has no authority to do anything
with the moral guide in question. Similarly, the secret of one muslim brother must
not be told to unconcerned persons.
PROBLEM:- If telling the truth leads to disturbance or violence, then it
is permissible to tell the lie because peace and tranquility is more precious than
to disturb it merely for the sake of an ordinary truth. If by telling the lie disturbance
or violence is likely to erupt then the lie is absolutely haram. In case of doubt
between truth and falsehood, the truth may be told if it will bring good, otherwise
silence is preferable.
PROBLEM:- Usual exaggeration is friendly conversation can not be taken as
lie. For example to say "I have thousand or hundreds of time not to do such and
such a thing but you did not listen." Here the number simply signifies plurality
of time, but not actual counting thereof.
PROBLEM:- Telling the implied truth for the sake of pun or fun in a manner
which is opposite the truth is also permissible. For example No old woman shall
go in the Paradise ( because there is no sense of old age in the Paradise where
every one shall eternally young)."
CHECKING THE TONGUE FROM AND DESISTING
FROM ABUSING AND BACK BITING ETC.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that the best thing
which will enable Men to enter the paradise if TAQWA (fear of Allah and excellence
of moral character), and the worst thing which plunge men in the hell are two things
having cavity namely the mount and the shame of the woman.
Some more sacred saying of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)
are summarized below,
He said, "One who keep silence (as moral behaviour) attains deliverance."
The good of man lies in discarding thing which are of no use, restraining tongue,
heart and other organs from ungainly activities.
Hazrat Abu Zar Ghafari says, I begged the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace
be upon him) to advise me of something useful. He said, I advise you to adopt TAQWA,
It will set right affair of yours. (Note: Here follows a series of Questions and
answers that took place between the Companion Hazrat Abu Zar Ghafari and the Holy
Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him). After every answer given to him a
Hazrat Ghafari begged one more advice. The answer given by the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) contain the following points of advice in that order.
"Make binding upon yourself the Recitation of the Holy Quran and the Remembrance
of Allah. This will cause you remembrance in the heavens and there shall be Nur
(Divine light) for you on the earth."
"Keeping quiet most of the time should be made binding on yourself, this will word
off satan and you will get support / assistance in your religious activities."
"Avoid laughing too much this causes death of the heart and removes the nur of the
visage."
"Speak the Truth even though it may be better."
"Do not fear the amn who talks ills of Allah."
"The thing which should keep you away from people should be in you own knowledge.
In other word your weaknesses and defects should be clear to you so that you may
word them off and then you shall not spy into other men's weaknesses."
"Do not call bad names and abuse the air (wind). When you find it unpleasant, seek
Good form Allah as He has endowed it with and seek refuge of Allah from the Evil
it carries by the command of Allah."
It is reported that once a rider cursed the animal of his riding. The Prophet of
Allah, on hearing this, rebuked the man and ordered him to alight, from the man
as he will non like the accursed animal accompany the travelers. He also forbade
cursing one's children and upon once your own self, lest it be the hour of the acceptance
of the prayer.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said one who blames and
charges of moral indecency and profligacyand these accusations are not in the man
concerned then all these charges and their consequences will recoil upon the accuser.
He also said, If two men abuse one another, then consequences and requitals of all
the abuses exchanged in between then will lie upon the person who started abusing
first so long the offended person does not exceed the limit of abuses hurled against
him. He further said, "Says Almighty Allah the son of Adam (man) causes Me injury
he abuses the Time (Dahr or Zamana). I am The Dahr Allaffairs are in MY HAND, I
cause alternation in Day and Night". In other words ill of Time and abusing it.
amounts to criticism Almighty Allah and all that happens and occurs in the world
is at the command of Almighty Allah.
He said. When a man says all men have perished then the man who suffers most is
the men himself so says so. The man who regards all others as deserving of it, as
he is himself the greatest sinner.
He also said, The worst of all men you will find on the Day of Judgement is the
amn who is TWO FACES, (indulging in duplicity) a hypocrite, changing stand and stance
every now and the or saying opposite things at one and at the some time.
Hazrat Huzaifa says he heard the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)
say the backbiter shall not be admitted in the Paradise.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has siad, The virtuous servants
of Allah are those who very sight (appearance) reminds of Allah the Almighty, and
the evil doers of His servants are those who indulge in back biting, cause separation
among friends and implicate innocent people in crimes which they have not committed.
He said (speaking to companions) Do you know what is back biting? (after a pause
he said) Back biting is (the evil) that you say in his absence about a brother of
yours if who he takes ill when it comes to his knowledge. Some one asked suppose
the evil is present in the man. He said This is what is meant by back biting (telling
things in absent) and if you speak of a thing which is not present in him, then
it is (bohtan) false accusation or false imputation.
Ummul Momineen Hazrat Ayesha (May Allah be pleased with her) says, it is enough
for Ummul Momineen Hazrat Safiah (May Allah be pleased with her) that she is so
and so ( the idea was that she short statured!) there upon the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) said to Hazrat Ayesha 'You have siad such a thing that
if it is dropped into an ocean, it (the said word) will dominate over (engulf) the
ocean. To utter about the natural thing 9in absence) which is not liked by the other
person is what the Quarn says as Bohtan (insinuated utterance), when there is no
occasion to do so.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has siad. Ghibat (false accusation)
is worse than adultery (fornication). The companions asked why it is so . He who
commits adultery later seek and receives forgiveness from Allah, but there is no
forgiveness for Ghibat (False accusation) unless the person concerned also forgives
the accuser.
He has also said, If a man secures food by insinuating against his Muslim brother,
Allah will force that much amount from the Hell. The some things as said about the
clothing received for ghibat in the world and the clothing forced on the accuser
on the Day of Judgment.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has severely reprimanded
and warned the accusation mongers in these shocking words O You people who profess
Eimaan Islam by tongue and Eiman has not entered you, hearts do not indulge in false
accusation (Ghibat) of Muslims and don't try into their private personal affairs
of (innocent) Muslim, Allah will also their private affairs pried onto and whosoever
affairs are thus pried into by Allah. He inflict utter disgrace on him, even if
he (hiding) in his own home.
He has also said In the Night of Ascension I passed by the people whose nails sure
of copper with which they scratched their mouths and chests. On enquiry, Angel Jibrail
said, these are the people who ate the human flesh and used to dishonour them.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that, at places
where the honour of Muslim is antraged and polluted. If any one did not help the
Muslim victim but continued watching the incident and failed to check this disgrace,
then Allah also will not help him at the place where he would desire to be helped.
And the man who helps the muslim brother at the pace where he is being dishonoured
Allah will help him at the place of his choice when he needs Divine.
He said, A Momin is the mirror of another Momin and the Momin is the brother of
another Momin, he should try to save the things of his brother (Momin) form being
destroyed and render him help in his absence. He said, If a man sees a thing which
should ordinarily he kept hidden and he hides it, it is as if he brought a dead
man to life.
He said, If a man kills a man on account of the crime or misdeed for which he has
already sought forgiveness from Allah, then the killer would himself die after being
involved in that very misdeed or crime.
He further said, Do not express joy over the calamity or misfortune of another man.
Otherwise Allah will show mercy on him and involve you in that calamity.
PROBLEM:- Ghibat (back biting) means to speak certain weakness of a man with
intentions to malign him which he does not like to he told. And if the weakness
or defect is not found in the man, then it Bohtan (false accusation). The Holy Quran
says
(Let none back bite the other. Will you like to eat the flesh of your dead brother?
(No) you would fell contemptuous.)
The habit of backbiting has also been condemned in many Ahadees of the Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him) which we have mentioned earlier.
PROBLEM:- A Musalman is seen offering prayer and keeping fasts regular, but
at his hands and tongue other Muslim brothers are in trouble. To disclose and mention
these troublesome feature to others will not be taken as Ghibat (back biting) as
the intention behind this disclosure is warn others brother to beware of this troublesome
trails of that so called religious man. There is a saying in the Hadees, do you
fear a wicked man? Speak out the harmful activities of such a man, so that people
may protect themselves from his mischief.
PROBLEM:- If the case of the aforesaid men is brought to the notice of the
state authorities for taking necessary action against him it is justified and it
will not be taken as back biting (Ghibat). On the contrary, it is necessary to check
the mischievous activities of such a wicked man, so that people may be spared of
their aftermath and the peace and tranquility of the state may also not be disturbed.
Any advice if so called tolerance, by pseudo reformers or religionists must no be
heeded.
PROBLEM:- Jurist Abul Lias has said 'Ghibat (back biting) is of four kinds,
(1) Kufr (denial of Allah and Islam). Suppose a man is openly committing ghibat
and when he is asked to desist from this, he insists that he is doing the right
thing. In other word he is showing a haram thing as halal which is Kufr.
(2) Hypocrisy. The man is criticizing and doing ghibat in front of the amn whom
he knows but does not name him, thus showing himself a virtuous man. This is Ghibat
of Nifaq (hypocrisy).
(3) Sinful act when Ghibat is committed deliberately knowing that Ghibat is haram
and yet he does not desists.
(4) Mubah permissible with good intentions of telling irreligious and misleading
affairs of some precaution in the name of religion and reform. Though it is ghibat
a sense, but with good and beneficial purposes it is permissible (Mubah) when no
personal interest is involved.
PROBLEM:- Telling people about the open and deliberate misdeeds of a man
is not Ghibat, but telling things of the same man which are not known is ghibat.
There is a Hadees saying, One who removes the veil of shame from his face, to speak
about him in his absence is NOT GHIBAT.
PROBLEM:- On seeking opinion about a man the latter weakness must not remain
untold. It may be injurious to the opinion seeker. According to a hadees, the man
from whom opinion is sought is Ameen (trust holder). His not disclosing the weakness
of the concerned amn is 'MISTRUST' (Khyanat).
PROBLEM:- Like committing Ghibat by tongue, it may also committed through
gestures by movements of head, hands, eyes and eye brows, other physical action
indicating some else weakness or defects (especially natural one). In short Ghibat
in any shape or form is ghibat. It is reported that once Hazrat Ayesha (May Allah
be pleased with her) indicated by gestures about a woman who had just left, that
she is short statured (not agreeably tall as a woman). The Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) warned her that she committed Ghibat.
PROBLEM:- Imitating some one movements of naturals or physical defects is
a ghibat of a more sinister quality than telling by tongue.
PROBLEM:- Like the ghibat of a living man the ghibat of a deceased Muslim
when the defects are not of a nature, the description of which is not ghibat. Likewise
the ghibat of a Zimmi Kafir (under protection of Islamic state) is also not permissible
because he enjoys the same rights as a muslim. However telling the evils / misdeeds
of a kafir in war (Harbi) is not ghibat.
PROBLEM:- Telling evils/misdeed on the face of the amn concerned, through
not ghibat in the literal sense, it is more dangerous than that because he might
he enraged to retaliate and cause more harm than otherwise he should not have caused
if his weakness was told in his absence. The philosophy behind checking ghibat is
to prevent harm to the muslims of the society, but telling defects on the face would
almost certainly prove injurious because in the event of ghibat the news of his
misdeed might or might not have reached him. This is surely an act of greater haram
than in case of ghibat.
PROBLEM:- The defects which are generally narrated by way of ghibat are of
various natures. Physically defects or deformities, for example, blindness, being
one-eyed, lame, crippled, flat nosed etc.
So called or assumed drawbacks of profession, race, family lineage etc. this is
very common in the sub-continent where high brow society people call names to the
professions or avocations of people belonging to lower strata. A part form these
established grounds of ghibats in our society there are various avenues of strictures,
satire, taunts etc. relating to habits of walking and talking, dresses and other
smaller but more common modes of behaviour a appearance. These are all forms of
ghibats, these are more tragic because the poor ordinary men and woman. Listening
to ghibat is as sinful as it is telling ghibat. According to a hadees, any one who
protect the honour of another coming form ghibat, it is due to the Mercy and grace
of Allah to protect him from the Fire of He'll.
PROBLEM:- The man against who some one commits ghibat should be approached
to seek his pardon by the man committing ghibat, if the former comes to know about
the misconduct of the latter. That way alone he can be exonerated. If the victim
of ghibat remains unaware, the man committing ghibat should at least express regret
and repentance, that would be enough.
PROBLEM:- Seeking personal pardon also demand that this time of good qualities
of the offended person should also narrated on his face to assuage his feeling and
neutralize the harm done to him. If still the man is not satisfied, then the man
seeking pardon will be exonerated of his moral guild and there shall be no accountability
for the some of the Day of Judgement.
PROBLEM:- According to Imam Ghizali if the victim of ghibat dies or disappears
and there remains no chance of seeking pardon, then in order to reduce and offset
the seriousness of his misconduct (ghibat) he should devote more time in doing deeds
of goodness, remembrance of Allah and other acts of charity and benevolence so that
his redeeming acts out weigh his misdeed on the Day of Judgement.
PROBLEM:- Praising some one on his face simply to please him or securing
his own admiration is forbidden. Similarly praising a person in absention with intentions
that when this praise would reach him he will be please is also equally forbidden.
Exaggeration in praise is also not *allowed.
ENMITY AND JEALOUSY
It is said in the Holy Quran,
( And do not desire in things in which Allah has given dignity (blessing) among
you over others. For the Men Folk is what they earn and for the women is what they
earn. Solicit blessing from Allah. Surely Allah is aware of all the things,. It
is also in the Holy Quran I seek refuge from the evil of the Jealous when he is
(bentyupon) doing **jealousy.
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*: Hazrat Miqdad (companion) says, The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be
upon him) has said that when you find some one exaggerating in praise for some one
else, fill his mouth with dust. When he hard some one praising in excess, he said
the man has broken the back of his friend. On other occasion when a man praised
his friend (more than due) he said you have cut the throat of your brother, he repeated
this three times to stress the point. When some one finds it necessary to praise
some one he should not say as if with conviction. He should qualify his praise with
expressions such as In my opinion, I thing so and so etc. The truth is known to
Allh. The man should never claim conviction and fulness of knowledge.
**: The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said Jealousy eats
own (destroys) good things as the jungle fire eats away trees , branches, etc. And
sadaqah eliminates vices as water puts off fire. He also said, Jealousy spoils Eimaan
as ALOES spoils the honey. Further on jealously spoils back biting and saying are
as away form me as I am from them. Muslim brother
EVIL OF TYRANNY
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, "any one who owes
money to some one, he must get it cleared (paid off) before the advent of the Day
(of Judgement) when there shall be worldly riches to settle the account, but the
good deeds in his account to pay off the debt (of the world) which (the deeds) shall
be given to the other man. If there is no deed or his deed fall short the evil deed
of other man shall be dumped in his balance (to make his own evil deeds heavier
and lighter of the other man). He once asked his companion, do you know who is poor.
They said they regard the amn as poor who has no money in his possession. He said,
In my Ummah the poor is one who comes with plenty of good deeds by way of prayers,
fasting etc. but he had also abused some once usurped money and shed blood in the
world. In order to settle his accounts his good deeds shall be transferred to those
who right be he usurped. IF his good deed fall short the evil deeds of the affected
person shall be thrust in his balance and he will be condemned to remain in hell
for ever.
He has also siad, Any one who endeavours to seek Pleasure of Allah at the cost of
displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him from the evils of people. But
if any one who tires to please people at the cost of the displeasure of Allah, Allah
will entrust him with the people who will deal with him as they like (Allah's protection
and safeguard will not be available to him) He also siad, The most wretched man
on the Day of Judgment shall be one for the sake of worldly betterments of others,
spoiled his own fortunes for the Day of the Judgment.
He has further said, Protect your self from the curse and imprecation of an oppressed
amn because when he will demand his rights, Allah does not deny any rightful man
of his rights (even in the world).
ANGER AND PRIDE
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, Anger spoils the
Eiman as ELWA (ALOES) spoils the honey. He also said, he who protect (safeguard)
his tongue (from evil) Allah will cover his blemishes, and one who checks his anger,
Allah will withhold His Punishment and one who seeks pardon (forgiveness) from Allah,
He will grant him pardon! He has further said, Anger comes from satan and satan
was created from fire, there fore when one is overtaken by anger, he should make
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Continue**: should keep themselves away form mutual jealousy, enmity and back biting.
He has said "Allah on the night of 15th of shaban send down special splendour on
his chosen servants. Those who seek forgiveness them. those who seek Mercy He grants
them Mercy but He leaves those alone who bear enmity against one another." He also
said "Twice in the week Monday and Thursday the deeds record of the people are presented
before Allah. He forgives all except those who bear enmity against one other. He
will not forgive them unless they mend their ways.
ablution (with water) as water puts off the fire. He has also said, When a man becomes,
he should sit down, if he is standing. If the anger does not subside, he must he
down flat on the ground.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) speaking about the proud
and the haughty people, the fact of these people will be that they will squeezed
in the frames of ants but their faces will those man, there shall be all round curses
on them, they will be dragged to the prison house of the hell, there shall be fire
of the hell on them and they shall be made to drink the squeezed liquid of the hell
dwellers. The final abode of the proud people is in the hell, according to the Holy
Quran. He also said, "May I tell you about the people of the paradise? they are
the people whom the unknowing and uninformed people of the world regard them as
weak and resource less but they so near in the Presence of Allah that if they swear
in the Name of Allah, Allah will grant them forthwith whatever they wish. He further
said, "should I not in something of hell dwellers, they are hard cored, hard natured
proud and haughty people (condemned and accursed from the inception of the universe
with their arch devil satan). He also said, one who presents himself as meek and
humble for the sake of Allah, Allah elevated him to great heights, thought the people
of the world regard as small and of no consequence. And one how shows himself off
as great and honourable before the people, Allah degrades and lowers him in status
and he is looked down upon and disgraced in the eyes of those very people. The Holy
Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that there are three things
which procure Deliverance and there are things which lead to destruction. The things
which promise deliverance are (10 Adopt Taqwa (fear of Allah) openly and secretly
for the sake of Allah (2) Speak the truth in moments of joy and grief and (3) Adopt
moderation in the days of affluence as well as in days of adversity. And the these
things which lead to destructions are (1) Follow and pursue the evil desires and
the path of evils (2) Slavery (object surrender) to stinginess and avarice.
SEVERANCE AND CUTTING OFF CONTACTS
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, "It is permissible
(advisable) for a man to abandon his brother for more than three days at a stretch,
and better of the two is he who offer salam (greetings) first. The amn seeking reunion
should offer salam three times. If still the other amn does not respond, the blame
for it should be divertedto uncompromising companion. He also said, if a man abandons
his brother (in faith) for over a year, it is as if he has killed him. If a man
severs connection with his muslim for more than days and dies without re union,
he will be hurled in the hell.
ETIQUETTES OF TREATMENT
The following verses of the Holy Quran illustrate the fundamental etiquettes of
treatments and behaviour in respect of adherence to worship of Almighty Allah, obedience
to Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) respect and service of parents,
elders and other fellow beings in Islam and the society.
Those who break Allah's convent after it is ratified and those who break what has
ordered to be joined and do mischief on earth. These cause losses to themselves.
(Baqarah II:verse 27)
And Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to
parents. Whether one or both of them attain in your life, say not to them a word
of contempt and act of kindness lower to them the wing of humility and say My Lord
bestow on them Your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhoods.
(Bani Israel:verse 23-24)
The grand father of Bahaz bin Hakeem say, I asked the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him) O Prophet of Allah! with whom should I render service of
humility and sympathy. He replied, With your mother. (the question was asked three
times nad thrice the same answer was given> On the fourth occasion the answer
was 'With your father, then with those who are near to him and those near to them.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, " The one rendering
obligation after his father or in his absence with his friend. Hazrat Asma bin Abu
Bak'r Siddique (May Allah be pleased with him) says 'During the days when there
was a path between the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) adn the
Quraish, my mother who was non-believer, came to me. I asked the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) what treatment should I render to her who is not in
the fold of Islam? He replied, Treat her with kindness (and reverence due to a mother).
This shows that even with non-believing parents, treatment should be according to
their status as parents. He has siad, One of the major sins is to abuse one's parents.
The companions were surprised as to how and why so some one should abuses the father
of another who abuses in return the father of the abuser (This is causing abuse
to one's own father!). This may be even with mother and other respectable relations.
This was during the Day of Ignorance (Jahiliyah or pre-Islam).
It is shocking that now a day, the respect of the parents is on the decline not
by others, but their own children.
He has also said, "The pleasure of Allah lies in the pleasures of the father, and
the displeasure of Allah is hidden in the displeasure of the father."
One man came to the companion Abul Durda and said that his mother is commanding
him to divorce his wife and he did not know what to do. Hazrat Abul Durda replied,
I have heard the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) saying that
mother is the middle door of the Paradise. Now it depends upon your pleasure to
preserve and safeguard that door or destroy it".
He has further said, " Parents are the paradise and hell for the children, if they
are kept pleased the reward is paradise and if they are displeased and teased the
punishment of hell shall be their lot". Further more he had said, " One who begins
his day on rising in the morning in a state that he had obeyed his parents the doors
of Paradise is opened for him. And one who begins his morning in such a condition
that he had disobeyed his parents, the doors of hell are opened for him since morning
(which means in the hell throughout the day) and if there only one of the parents,
then only one door of hell is opened since morning." A companion asked if the parents
tyrannize him that is, if they behave like tyrants, He said, even though they tyrannize,
even though they tyrannize, even though they tyrannize (three times).
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, " When the children
look at their parents with love and tenderness, Almighty Allah for every look of
theirs grants the reward of one Hajj-e-Mabrur."People asked him, even if they look
at 100 times a day? He said, "Allah is Great and Generous, He has Power over everything.
He is free from limitations which may restrict His Benevolence and Blessing. One
companion come to the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) and said
that he desired to go on Jihad (crusade) and fighten in the way of Allah, He asked
him if his mother was alive. The companion replied she was there (alive). The Holy
Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)commanded him to go and serve (obediently
and zealously) his mother. This paradise lies near the feet of the mother.
He has said that, mannan (who renders an act of kindness) who puts and displays,
obligation of his deed on others the one who disobeys his parents and the habitual
drunkard will not be admitted in the paradise (i.e. their abode is hell!).
He advised another companion who wanted to know how he could serve his parents who
are no more alive, he told him he should pray to Allah for their forgiveness, fulfill
the promises (contracts etc) his parents had with others, tread kindly those relations
who were treated likewise by his parents, give due honour and respect to their friend
etc.He said the treatment of elder brother to his younger brother is like the father
to his son.
As for the maintenance of mutual relations the Divine Dispensation is that who joined
and keep it intact Allah also keep him (safe and)intact, and one who severs it.
Allah also shatters and keep him disjointed.
He also said "One who desires munificence in his livelihood and prolong his age,
he should behave kindly and affectionately with his kins. There is also the mention
of protection against a wretched death and the Prophet advise for constancy in praying
for forgiveness from Almighty Allah.
He also said, The best modes of moral conducts are, `Try to keep contact with him
who dissociates with you', `Forgive him who oppresses you', `One who desires that
his age may prolong and there be increase in his livelihood he should behave affectionately
with his kith and kin. (Sila-e-Rahmi).
PROBLEM:- `Sila-e-Rahmi', stands for joined adn (steadfastly) maintaining
the blood relations, by kind and affectionate treatment. There is consensus in the
Ummah that Sila-e-Rahmi (maintaining blood relation by good and benevolent treatment)
is wajib and Qata-e-Rami (cutting off, severance of blood relations by bad or oppressive
treatment) is Haram.
There are different grades among the relations who come within the purview of Sila-e-Rahmi
(also called Zawil Qurba, having close relationship) and the treatment towards them
varies according to their status. The status of the parents among worldly relations,
is supreme most, after them the blood relation and after them, all other family
relations (as distinct from formal and spoken relations).
PROBLEM:- There are many ways to treat and affectionately deal with the blood
relations, namely (10 give them gifts and presents (2) to help and accomplish their
work and necessity in which your help is sought (3) to wish them well adn often
visit them at home, sit and converse with on matters of mutual interest and welfare,
and behave with them in kind and pleasant manner.
PROBLEM:- If this relation is staying in another locality country to maintain
correspondence contact with him and enquire about his progress and personal well
being etc. This and other friends modes of treatment will ever keep the relationship
fresh and progressive.
PROBLEM:- If the man himself is staying in a foreign country and his parent
call him home he should fulfill there wish by personally coming down to them cool
their eyes and warm up their affectionate treatment.
After the father the next relations deserving benevolent treatment are the grand
father and the elder brother. Elder brother is a kin to father, elder sister and
khala (mother's sister) one next to mothers place. Some scholars regard uncle next
to father.
PROBLEM:- The relationship and mutual understanding must be kept alive by
frequent to and for visit or by maintaining correspondence among them. Exchange
of gifts and presents will also strengthen the bonds of relationship.
PROBLEM:- It is reported in the hadees sharif that through sila-e-rahmi (maintaining
the ties of relationship by all possible means) the age span expands which means
longivity, and there is abundance in livelihood. Some scholars are of the opinion
that by longivity is not meant the span of life beyond the destined person of life
(which is not subject to change in life years in the worldbut they opine that after
death the reward of good deeds increase which in other words means that the man
is still alive and progressing (spiritually and non-sensationally of course!) or
it means that after death his mention among the ahl-e-khair (people of good deeds,
maintained).
AFFECTION ON OFFSPRING AND MERCY TOWARDS ORPHANS
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, "One who makes
an orphan on equal partner in his sinner, Allah will make the Paradise as an essential
(wajib) reward for him, except when he has not committed a major sin for which there
is no forgiveness." And any one takes three girls or three sister under his patronage,
gives them good education and treat them affectionately, till they become self earning
and no longer need the patronage of their guardian, then ALLAH will make Paradise
wajib, (an essential reward) for him. In that meeting he confirmed that Allah will
bestow the some reward for a man who patronizes two girls/sisters. If the Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him) was asked about one girl, he would have given
the same reply.
He said, The man whose two dignified organs (Kareematain) have been taken away by
the Providence, for him Paradise is wajib (a must reward). Explaining Kareematain
(two dignified organs) he said "Two Eyes".
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) once asked his companions
should I not tell you what the most blissful sadaqah is? (He said) The sadaqah (charitable
deed) which he offers for that daughter of his who has come back to him, meaning
thereby that either her husband is dead, or he has been divorced and as such has
come back to her father there is no one else to support and look after her.
He said, `None should bury his daughter alive, nor insult and disgrace her nor give
preference to his male children over her Allah will grant him Paradise.'He also
said, ` Any one how teaches one aspect of good manner, it is better than one sa'a
of sadaqah.' He also said, "there is no other gift, for a father to give to his
children more valuable and precious than to teach manners to his children. Some
more Ahadees in this respect are summarized below,
"Give respect and honour to your children and teach them excellent moral behaviours."
"Distribute equally between your children. If I were to give preference I would
give it to girls (daughter)."
"Observe justice (and fair play) in whatever you give to your children if you expect
that they should also be fair and just in rendering service and kindness to you."
"Allah likes that you observe justice in your treatment towards your children even
while kissing them (out of fondness and afection)."
"One who supports an orphan (of his family or others) he and I will be in the Paradise
so close as the two joining fingers are."
" One who passes his hand over the head of an orphan for the pleasure of Allah,
Allah will give him for each hair that comes below his hand. And one who does any
deed of benevolence out of affection with any orphan boy or orphan girl, I and he
will be in the Paradise so close as the two adjoining fingers of a hand. Whenever
he passes his hand over the head of an orphan boy the movement of his hand should
be from backward to forward (neck to forehead) while doing so for his own son (or
any boy of the family or else's), other than orphan, the movement of the hand towards
the neck (forehead to neck).
RIGHTS OF NEIGHBOURS
The Holy Quran says,
(" Ser ALLAH and join not any partners with Him, And do good to parents, kinsfolk,
orphans, those in need neighbours who are near neighbours who are strangers, the
companion by your side, the way fares and what your hand possess, for Allah loves
not the arrogant the vainglorious.")
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said "BY Allah! he is
not Momin, which the companions requested him to say who that person was", he replied,
"the man from whose repressive treatments his neighbours are not safe."
He said, "the man will not enter the Paradise at whose hands are not in peace."
He said, "The man who believes in Allah and the Last Day (Day of Judgment), should
treat his neighbours with dignity and honour."
Hazrat Abdullah bin Mas'ood has reported that Once a man come and asked the Holy
Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) how can he know whether the deed done
by him was it good or otherwise? The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon
him) replied, `When you hear your neighbours that you ahve done good, the deed is
good. Similarly, when you hear your neighbours saying you have done wrong (bad)
it is so.'
He has said, "Momin is not that man who eats full stomach while his neighbour nearby
lies hungry."
He has said, "Whenever some one cooks (tasty) thing, he should increase the broth
whereby he can serve his neighbour."
"A woman who is very excessively performing religious dues of prayers (salat), fasting
etc, but due to her sharp and abusive tongue her neighbours are not in peace", The
Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) said about that woman `she is
in hell' (she is destined to go to hell). Likewise about a woman who was said to
be less devoted to religious acts but she behaved with her neighbours kindly and
co-operatively, the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) said, "she
is in Paradise." (i.e. her destination on the Day of Judgement Paradise and Allah's
Pleasure).
He has said, "Allah has distributed good moral conduct among you as He has distributed
the means of sustenance, He bestows the word to one who is dear to Him as also to
him whom He does not admire. But the Deen (The straight Path) of Religion only to
the person who is beloved in His Presence. Therefore the amn who is blessed with
the Blessings of Religion (Deen) is also Dear to Allah as His chosen servant. I
swear in the Name of One in Whose Hand is my sour, a man can not he a (true) Musalman
unless his heart and tongue are also not Musalman, (testify the Eimaan and Islam
by his thoughts and utterances.) and so long as his neighbours are not in piece
at his hands."
He has said, "For a Muslim it is a matter of worldly blessing if he has a pious
and virtuous neighbour, spacious house to live and comfortable means of transport.
And do you know what are the rights of your neighbour towards you. There are, "You
should help him when he asks you,
Lend him money when he request you.
You should attend to him when he become ill.
Congratulate him when something lucky and pleasing come to him.
Console and pacify him when he is in distress.
Attend to his funeral when he dies.
Do not raise your walls higher than his without his consent.
Give him no trouble, rather give him something lasty from your cooked stuff.
When you buy fruits present him something from it or else bring them in your home
without his knowledge.
Continuing stress of the rights due to the neighbours, the Holy Prophet (Allah's
grace and peace be upon him) said, In the name of One in whose hand is my soul,
there are very few people who are aware of the right of the neighbours and fulfill
their. These are the people whom Allah has blessed. The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace
and peace be upon him)stressed the rights of the neighbour so much that the people
thought the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him)would make them the
sharers in the inheritance of their property. Then he said, "Neighbours are of three
kinds, some have two rights towards their people and some have only one right. The
neighbour who is Muslim and is also a relation, he has three rights (1) The right
of Relationship. The Muslim neighbour has two rights namely (1) the right of neighborhood.
The companions asked the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) if they
should offer them any thing from their sacrifices, he replied that `nothing need
he given to him'.
PROBLEM:- If by going up the roof and terrace if the privacy of the neighbour
is violated, then either the walls of one's house should be raised so that there
may not be any complaint in this behalf , alternatively going up the terrace may
be discarded for the sake of the neighbours convenience.
KINDNESS TOWARDS THE PEOPLE
It is said in the Holy Quran,
(Help and co-operate with one another in matters of goodness and righteousness and
do not help any in matters of evil and transgression.)
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) also said, Allah does not
show Mercy to those who show no sympathy and kindness towards the people.
Summary of more Ahadees in this connection is given below,
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, That man is not
in our fold how is not kindly disposed towards the youngster and does not show respect
and reverence to the elders does not inspire for doing good and avoiding the evil.
It is reported through Hazrat Anas, if the young man accords respect to an elderly
man in consideration of his age then Allah will depute men to show honour to that
young man when he reaches that advance age.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, When (a kind hearted
man) of my Ummah fulfills the necessities of a Muslim brother with intentions to
please him, he pleases me. And one who pleases me, he pleases Allah Who will admit
him in the Paradise.
He said, Any one who does justice to an oppressed men Allah will reward him with
seventy three forgiveness, only one which shall be enough to fulfill all his ambitious
and the remaining seventy two forgiveness will cause enhancement of his on the Day
of Judgment to that extent.
He said, All Momins are like a unified one person, If an eye pains him, the entire
body suffers and feels the pain, Similarly the ailment in the head (or any other
part) becomes the ailment of the whole body.
He said, A Momin is like another Momins edifice, one part of it strengthens and
solidifies the edifice of the other. The he joined two fingers of his hand to show
how two fingers when joined together become source of strength, moralizing thereby
that Muslims should remain united providing strength to one another.
He said, A Momin is another Momins brother. He should neither oppress him nor leave
him at the mercy of others and one who engages himself to fulfill necessities of
another man Allah engages Himself to solve that man problems and difficulties.
He said, Any one who removes one pain from the pains of other man, Allah on the
Day of Judgment, will remove one calamity from the calamities of that Day. And one
who covers and hides the evil of his Muslim brother, Allah will cover his blemishes
on the Day of Judgment.
He said, A Momin is not a Momin unless he likes (and provides) for his brother what
he likes for himself.
He said, Give treatment to other according to their status and dignity. It is hard
to have a single grade of treatment for all and sundry. However cares should be
taken that in treating people differently, no insult and humility should be caused
to nay one.
He said, All the creatures (People at large) are like the member of Divine Family
and the dearest among them is he who renders self service to others (of the members).
He said, Where you be fear Allah all the time. It an evil deed is committed, offset
it by doing an act of goodness. The good deed will effect and eliminate the effects
of the evil deed.
PRETENCE AND EXPECTING FALSE PRAISE
The exact words mentioned as sub-head line of this subject are "RIYA" which stands
for Hypocrisy, preference or out word display of some permissible deed or deeds
to establish some pretended sincerity and honesty while the real facts are just
the opposite.
The others word of the caption is "SUMAH" derived from the Arabic root word sumah
(to hear). here the intentions is that people may hear about of the deed without
seeing and knowing personally and praise the does of the good deed. The purpose
in this case is the hypocritical ambition of listening praise from the people who
are unaware of the real facts, in that the doer is hungry of self praise.
Both these traits are symptoms of hypocrisy, as the deed done are not honestly intented
nor sincerely performed. Obviously these deeds of goodness in themselves do not
fetch the promised reward, on the contrary the become source of punishment from
Allah.
It is said in the Holy Quran,
(O believers! do not falsify (render useless) your deeds of charity through expecting
praise and causing trouble, like the man who spend his money just to show to the
people.) It is further said,
(One who hopes to meet his Lord sustainer (Allah), he should perform deeds of Goodness
and not associate any one in the worship of his One Allah, the Lord Sustainer. (The
learned scholars are of the opinion that this verse is by way of forbidding hypocrisy
- Riya).
At another place it is said in the Holy Quran castigating those who are neglectful
of their prayer and when they offer prayer (salat) it is to show to the people.
Curse on those offerers of salat who are negligent (sloth) in their prayer and which
they offer to show to the people and who refuse to lent for the time being even
small things of daily use. It is also said.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said that Allah does
not look at your faces your wealth, He looks towards your heart and your deeds.
He also said, One who does a good thing so that people hear about it, Allah will
make (his punishment) to be heard adn one who does a good thing as a pretense, he
will suffer too his pretense (in which case good deeds become unrewarding).
He further said, Even a minute part of hypocrisy is Shirk (denying Tauheed). Among
the servants of Allah the most beloved ones are those who hide themselves from the
general people such that if they intend to be unidentified, people can not recognize
them, and if they give evidence (in the open) they still remain unrecognized. They
are the leaders (Imams) of the guidance (Hidayat) and Bright Lamps of knowledge.
He was once heard saying, One who offers with "riya" (to show to the people and
not with devotion), he commits shirk (unbelief and associating some else with Allah),
And one who keeps fast with "riya" he (too) is guilty of shirk, And one who offers
sadaqah with `riya'j he also commits shirk.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, I apprehend my
Ummah clandestine shirk and lust. When companion asked him if people commit shirk
after him, he said `yes' but they will not worship, the sun, the moon, the stone-god
and idols, but they will commit hypocrisy in their deeds the hidden lust or passion
means that in the morning the man will keep the fast but under some (impulsive)
desire, he will break the fast (before schedule).
He said, On the Day of Judgment, the first man whose case shall be decided the `shaheed'
(martyr). He will be presented before Almighty Allah Who will ask him about His
Bounties, which he will admit. He will be asked, how he repaid the bounties the
man will say that he fought in His (Allah) Way and was martyred Allah will chastise
him and say, You are liar, you fought so that people may call you brave, which they
did. (indicating that what he desired, he got!). The man will then be asked to be
dragged on his face and thrust in the hell. Then another man will be called for
accountability this man had learnt and taught the Holy Quran. He will be asked about
the bounties of the Providence which he will name as having been benefited by them.
He will be asked as to how he repaid these Divine Bounties. He will say that he
secured knowledge, learnt and taught the Holy Quran for His Pleasure. He will be
condemned as a liar because he secured knowledge and taught Quran so that the people
may praise him,praise him, which he was acclaimed and thus got what he wanted. He
will be dragged to the hell like the Shaheed before.
Thereafter the third man who was blessed with plenty of riches and luxuries of every
description. He will be asked how he repaid the Bounties of Allah. He will also
claim that he spent his wealth to the cause of Allah. He will declared as a liar
or because he spent his money on luxuries and whatever he gave to the poor and the
needy, it was merely an act of pretense. Like the earlier men he will be dragged
to the hell as a punishment for his hypocrisy.
The Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) has said, One whose desires
(and deeds) are directed for the deliverance and success in the Hereafter, Allah
will bless him with the quality of self-sufficiency (self-sufficiency or Istighna),
fulfill all his desires and the world will come unto him in an object slavish manner
(begging his favour). And the man who sole ambition is to indulge in the world and
its affairs, poverty adn paincity will become his fortune, his ambitions and affairs
shall be shattered (far from being fulfilled!). He will get (not according to his
desires) but whatever he is destined to get. Hazrat Abu Hurairah once went to the
Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) and reported that one day he
was offering prayer inside his house when a man suddenly appeared before and saw
Hazrat Abu Hurairah in this condition. He felt pleasure that he was seen in this
condition. He asked the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) if it
was not riya (pretense). He informed Abu Hurairah that he was twice blessed, for
offering prayer secretly as well as openly. Engagement in prayer is exclusively
for Almighty Allah and should be offered will all sincerity for this exclusive aim.
If on being seen by the people (unintentionally) creates a feeling of delight, it
is as a natural impulse which has nothing to do with riya (pretense or hypocrisy).
It can be said that the reward (or punishment) for any good deed depends up on the
sincerity and honesty of he intention or Niyat. Anything of self pleasure through
praise by the people or gaining popularity which cause self-elation all there amount
to Riya (pretense) or sunn'ah (bearing of own's praise and the pleasure by) and
their requital in the Hereafter is hell, as we have in the aforesaid Hadees in which
the fated of self-styled martyr, the religious scholar and the man of resources
all of whom pretended to perform deed of virtues through means at their disposal
and were ultimately dragged to hell, there eternal abode.
PROBLEM:- It is better to perform deed of goodness in such a way that there
should not be any trace of self-praise or self-elation. And if one asks about it,
the answer should be plainly affirmative without mincing words. If an attempt is
made to hide the fact in a way that the secret comes out, then it amounts to riya
or pretense.
There are states of Riya (pretense) (1) Some time the pretender does this mischief
with the real modes of worship. For example, He offers namaz, when he is sure that
people are looking at him. If no man is not there to look at him, even when the
time of prayers is running, he will not offer namaz, this is the kind perfect Riya
(Hypocrisy) and there is no reward for such a worship.
The second state of Riya is that there is no riya in the mode of worship itself.
Whether there is any one or not to witness his worship, but the difference lies
in the quality of worship which becomes evident when some one else is with or near
and when there is none near about. Obviously, this is a riya of a lessor grade.
Why should there be any difference in the quality of performance of good deed? The
soul or essence of the deed should be criterion and not the presence or absence
of men around.
PROBLEM:- IF a man is keeping fast, he should hide or waver to admit this
fact when some one him about this? Some time people shy to admit when they are in
the midst of non-observers of fasting who at times make fun of simple natural Momin
in the modern society where religion is looked down upon as a secondary aspect of
life.
PROBLEM:- People demand or receive money for reciting Holy Quran for the
Eisal-e-Sawab of a deceased or some fixed occasions. This is a type of Riya. If
the money is not given he does not recite the Holy Quran. Reciting Quran with a
wage does no good to the reciter or the one who invites him for this purpose. In
such a situation the fate of the deceased hangs in balance! He is benefited only
when some person recites the Holy Quran purely for the soul of the deceased with
no ulterior or monetary behind.
PROBLEM:- When a person goes on Haj carrying some goods, articles of sale.
Obviously his pilgrimage to the Holy Land has twin purposes (1) performing Haj and
(2) sale of goods to earn benefits which is permissible under Shariat Laws. He motives
and preference between the two purpose will decide which reward is his lot. If the
basic intentions is (and it should be so) to perform Haj with single minded devotion
so that it may be rewarded in the Presence of Allah, and do the business if any
time is available during free times during Haj or better still, after the Haj. This
will fetch him both the rewards of the Deen and the dunya. If, unfortunately his
primary intentions is to earn profits through business and perform haj a secondary
issue, then he is doomed to be cursed. The worldly benefit (profit) will not last
long, but his loss in both the world will be eternal.
PROBLEM:- There is no Riya or show off pretense in the performance of Farz
parts of the worship[. The Farz segment of the worship[p, performed even will Riya
shall be taken as having been attended. It is however a separate issue if it is
accepted or not. If there fore when the Farz is compulsorily to be performed, then
why do this with sincerity and with out pretense or riya.
EISAL-E-SAWAB
PROBLEM:- Eisal-e-Sawab means to convey the blessings of the Recitation of
the Holy Quran, Durud Sharif, and other recites and prayers etc to the souls of
the deceased Momin men and women so that they may be blessed with Divine Grace and
Mercy in the spiritual universe, where they stationed after their death. The modes
of Eisal-e-Sawab may also be practical deeds carrying eternal reward. This is permissible
and to call it `bidat' or something of this kind is cruel. It is also proved by
the Ahadees of the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) beside some
of authentic religious Books written by eminent scholars of Islam.
It is reported that when the mother of Hazrat Sa'ad died, he came to the Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him) and asked what sadaqah is most blissful. He
replied "Water". Hazrat Sa'ad dug and constructed a well of sweet water and dedicated
to his mother. This indicates that good and beneficial deeds by the living carry
(eternal) blessing for the should of the deceased. This is what is known as sadaqah-e-jariya.
(The deed of charity carrying eternal recurring blessing). There are many such deeds
which come within the purview of sadaqah-e-jariya, for details learned scholars
and relevant books may be consulted.
There are many customs and ceremonies adopted for the Eisal-e-Sawab. There are no
fixed days and processes of this purpose. The fundamental point to be kept in mind
that every thing done should be with honest and pure intention without any semblance
of personal status. The Eisal-e-Sawab is meant and dedicated the souls of the deceased.
It is there fore imperative that whatever is conveyed must be genuinely pure worth
approval of Divine Grace and Mercy.
ASSEMBLIES OF DIVINE BLESSINGS
PROBLEM:- Meelad Sharif (celebration of the Birthday) of the Holy Prophet
(Allah's grace and peace be upon him) is not only permissible but also it is the
fountain head of spiritual and mundane blessings. To celebrate this most auspicious
day of the year, meetings, assemblies, conventions, seminars and public meetings
are held in open grounds, or within the four walls of mosques and houses. In these
gathering the special features of life history and Prophetic Accomplishments of
the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) are mentioned with due dignity
and veneration by learned scholars and religious leaders which people listen with
devoted attention.
In the Majlis-e-Milad are ritual are faithfully observed and there is no room for
any objection or criticism about. It is the revential Love, Affections and Devotions
towards the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him) that is the prime
motive for holding such spiritual gathering. Distribution of street etc is also
one of the features of these gathering. ccccc1
In majlis-e-Milad Sharif and other religious gathering are organized to celebrate
special occasion or personalities. For example, Majlis-e-Meraj Sharif, which as
its name suggests, is celebrated the most unique auspicious in the history of the
universe (both heaven and the earth) when the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace
be upon him) went in the Journey of the heavenly universe on the Night of Ascension
known as Meraj Sahrif. In those blissful assemblies the events of that Journey are
narrated which inspire and invigorate the Emanic Impulses of the Momins.
PROBLEM:- Death Anniversaries of the Khulafa-e-Rashideen (May Allah be pleased
with them) are also celebrated which also are permissible and must be regarded as
occasions of remembrance of great achievements of these most reveredpersonalities
after the Holy Prophet (Allah's grace and peace be upon him).
PROBLEM:- Holding of 10 Days Majlises in the month of Muharram is also valid
in which the events of the Karbala are narrated to remind the Ummah that without
the supreme sacrifice of the people of Ahle-e-Bait the survival and eternal permance
of Islam would not have been possible because the forces of evil and corruption
were greatly and perilously determined to out do Islam in those turbulent days of
Islamic history. ccccc2
(Note: Other details relating ceremonies, rituals, recitation of Marsias and other
practices may be un Islamic so every Muslim must be very careful and must get authenticate
in this regard.)
MISCELLANEOUS
PROBLEM:- Among all the languages prevalent at the moment. The Arabic Language
is the Most Perfect and Most Dignified. It is the language of the Holy Quran. This
will also be enguage to be used among the Dwellers of Paradise. One who learned
and teaches Arabic will be Divinely rewarded. It is essential for all the muslim
to learn Arabic, so as to be able to comprehend Islamic Books especially the principles
and details of Islamic Laws which are mostly in Arabic.
PROBLEM:- Moral stories and Fables can be studied, because they contain principles
in the garb of intelligently intended fables which serve as useful guide lines for
the conduct of problems of daily occurrence in the life.
OTHERS MISCELLANEOUS PROBLEMS
One who owes debts and refuses to repay then the creditor can take anything of equal
value belonging to the debtor.
Speaking in a soft persuasive manner is a virtue, but it should not be mistaken
as flattery.
Locust is a lawful bird, it can be killed for eating.
Bribery becomes permissible in exceptional circumstances, when there is danger to
life and honour, when some immediate delicate issues depend on it, as an inducement
for receiving one's own dues.
Calling father (owner) by name is makrooh. Naming him as a matter of course amounts
to degration, and as a show of familiarity which breeds contempt.
To wish own death and to pray for it is makrooh, especially when it is on account
of excessive hardship. However in cases of increasing immorality and deviation from
path of morality and guidance and there is fear of one's involvement then death
as an escape is desirable, even then it is better to pray for solidarity of Eiman
to resist to evil rather that to submit the pressure and erare for death.
Plague as an epidemic is curse, but those are in the legion where plague has broken
out should run away from there nor other should go there.
To call certain months and dates as bad omen is not correct. To take omen for and
against in respect of anythings is not correct.
To rely on astronomy, astronomy or any occult science is forbidden.
Jan Mantar etc are mere superstitions.
By the unabounded Grace and Beneficance of Almighty,This draft translation is completed
on 9/10 Rabiul awwal award 1416 correspondennding 7th of August 1995 at exactly
10.30 pm.
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